Lets Start Talking Again

It’s a fact that more marriages end in divorce than those that last. It used to be that marriages really were forever. The phrase “’till death do us part” was actually meant when it was uttered during wedding vows.

Now, we see or hear about celebrities who marry for 18 hours and couples that get hitched only to get legal status in one country or another.

Marriage is not a word that should be taken lightly, yet it is on a daily basis. But what do you do when your marriage is starting to fall apart, when everything you want is slowly slipping away? You rescue it.

1) Rescuing the Relationship

To save your relationship, you must first figure out what is causing it to fall apart.

Do you and your spouse talk about things, or are you too busy working and raising your family to discuss what’s going on? Have you gone on a date in the last six months?

Do you fight and argue all the time, or has one of you cheated on the other? What is causing the relationship to break down? Let’s face it; you don’t just wake up one morning and say, “I think I’d like a divorce today.”

In order to figure out what’s going (or gone) wrong in your relationship, you need to take a step back from your feelings to observe what is going on.

If you fight frequently, write down the things you fight about. Write down the amount of time you’ve spent together in the last few days, and write down what you were doing when you weren’t spending time together.

You will want to get everything straight in your head before you start to talk to your spouse about your problems and what you think might be damaging your relationship.

2) Talking—It’s Not Overrated

After you have gathered your information, approach your spouse.

Make sure you go into the discussion calmly and rationally. You also want to make sure that you’re not accosting or accusing, but rather asking and questioning.

If you go into the talk too aggressively, you are going to turn them off and nothing will get answered or resolved. Make sure you lay everything out on the table, from the things that are bothering you to the things that you wish you did more of together.

Explain that you want to know how your spouse is feeling, and that you care about where they want the relationship to go.

3) Scheduling

If you have a busy schedule, you may want to make an appointment to have this discussion. Actually, making a schedule for the two of you on a weekly basis is an excellent idea.

All parents know that children thrive on routine, which is why they have a time to wake up, a time to eat, and a time to go to bed. Relationships thrive on a somewhat of a timed schedule, as well.

For instance, take the case of my friend and her husband. Both of them spend every Saturday night together. They have young children, so most of the time they stay in instead of going out. They will rent a movie and either get take-out or some quick meal they can throw together once the kids have gone to bed.

They leave the lights on in the living room long enough to eat their meal, and then, once that’s done, they put the dishes in the sink (they will still be there the next day, so there’s no reason to spoil the mood by doing them), turn the lights off and snuggle together to watch the rest of the movie. They don’t talk about anything except the movie, and make sure that they are touching each other as much as they can.

It is not “un-romantic” to schedule time to be with your spouse. Make sure that you get some time together, whether it’s going out together, or staying in watching a movie. For myself and my boyfriend, sometimes we’ll pull out a board game, add some alcohol, and have a great night being silly together.

As you get along in your relationship, you come to take each other for granted. Spending fun, relaxing time together is one great way to get your relationship back on track.

If you’re thinking about filing for divorce because you can’t stand the fighting anymore, stop. Think about why you are fighting, and try to put yourself in your partner’s shoes. When you love each other and put a little work into it, marriages really can last forever.




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DEBT AND LAW OF ATTRACTION !

First off all , lets not argue about "but from where the money will come ?" , its none of your business ! , its the universes business , so you just sit pretty while the universe finds a way to come up with the Money .For my more skeptical friends , Please relax and let the universe show you , "How the money is going to come. "

Now that being said , we can move on to the topic at hand , that is DEBT ! 

Being is Debt is bad , being constantly chased by creditors is annoying and at the same time takes toll over our self esteem and image.  

Many of us have at some point in our life have found ourselves in debt , we owe money , and we dont have enough to pay back . And believe me , i know , this feeling sucks , especially if you are not an habitual defaulter.

Many people ask me about law of attraction and Money , can LOA be used to manifest money , can it help them to clear off their debts ?

The Answer is Yes ! it can ! But , like any application of LOA , it can be really easy or really difficult to implement , depends on your current mindset. 

Now look at "Settlement of Debt" as a need , so when applying LOA on this matter , we calculate the amount of money we need to settle the debt and ask the universe to deliver through visualization , imagination , listing out things to be thankful for and stuff , if these work for you , then just close this page , because you are An LOA Master and you dont need to be here , go enjoy your money , but if these dont work , read on.

The universe manifests the essence of your desires by picking up on your emotions and feelings. So sometimes concentrating on an "BIG Amount of money to pay off your debt , when there is no obvious source of income in sight , can be a little difficult , it can also , evoke Negative emotions of doubt and uncertainty. 

SO whats the alternative ?

Its. simple , we take the money factor out of the manifestation. Just listen to me for a second ,before lighting the torches and picking up your pitchforks .  Its simple , 

"The manifestation we are aiming for is Debt settlement not manifesting Money ! "

Let me explain with an example ....

Meet Steve , Steve has lost his job due to something inevitable. And now with no monthly income to support him , Steve is facing a Huge Credit card Outstanding , lets say USD 30000 ! Maybe he bought a Train for all i care , but the truth is he is in debt , and he has no way of paying it off in the future . Now he can declare bankruptcy and get the credit card people off his back , but lets be honest , declaring Bankruptcy isnt cheap . that will be the last nail in the coffin. 

What Steve needs to do is to address the elephant in the room , or better , imagine the room without the elephant ! 

The need here is to settle the debt , and the only logical solution Steves brain is giving him is "Get some Money" But with the bad market and all (again a belief of Steves Brain) it seems impossible at the moment. So what does he do ? He leaves it to the universe. 

What Steves Brain doesnt understand is that the HOW of this manifestation will be taken care off by the universe , who has access to all the 3600 Thousand Trillion Dollars on the earth , And Steves Debt is a measly 0.0000000000000001 % of that wealth. So all Steve has to do now is concentrate on the feeling he is going to feel while he is repaying the Debt. 

So, Steve sits Down , and He relaxes , He Takes deep breaths and he remembers the fact that he is the creator of his own experience in this reality  . And he Asks himself ....

              "How will i feel , when this debt is paid ? " 

What does this debt settlement stand for , the answer is simple , RELAXATION  ! Steve will be able to finally relax once the debt is paid . and through that Relaxation will come Happiness. 

Knowing this Steve now , imagines that he is paying his debt off, he is writing a cheque , and he is handing it over to the people he owes money , or he is Transferring funds from his account and paying off all his debt , and while doing so , a feeling of relaxation is sweeping over him. Now he is no longer under debt , and great burden is off his shoulders and he is feeling free and light and  mildly elated. He keeps feeling these feelings , looses track of time , drifts off to sleep.
 

Next Morning he wakes up , freshens up , sits down with a pen and paper , Writes down ....

"Thank you universe for such an amazing resolution , i feel so free and light , now that i have cleared off all my debts . And the best part , there is money left with me after , to help me start over again. Thank you universe for taking care of me ! " 

He spends the day without a care in the world and in the evening , receives a text that his account has been debited with 60000 USD . 

So folks what did we learn ?

1. Its the feelings that matter. SO find a way to feel "That way". 

2. You manifestation aint in the future , its now , when asking for a desire , act as if you have it "NOW"

3. The universe is Generous , it will give you more than you could have ever imagined or expected. 

4. Its possible for you to feel "That way" without an actual manifestation. 

5. Goal setting is good , but Dont be stuck on a date , Maybe the universe wants to deliver it ahead of time. 

6. When ever you are imagining or visualizing , Do it in the Present tense , do it as if you have everything now. Your imagination is your happy place , you are not bound by physical limitations , so go Nuts ! 

 
pS. This Example was based of a real experience of one of the readers. :)

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A WAY OUT OF NEGATIVITY !

So whats the deal with the universe Anyway ? From what we have been hearing , the Universe responds to your vibration... good or Bad vibration is responded with matching manifestations. The universe is neutral when it comes to manifestations , and you are the one responsible for your own vibrations and your own manifestations . 

So be afraid , Be very afraid... because there is no one coming to your rescue , its all your responsibility .

This one thought drives a lot of new LOAers up the walls .You start reveling in the awesome power of the universe , and then you have a negative thought , and you get scared , because negative thoughts attract to you more negative thoughts , and in turn negative situations and manifestations , so you try to wrestle that negative thought to the ground, and in doing so , you make the situations even worst. 

Ok have i scared you enough ? I have !? i am sorry... 

Ok let me put this one scary thought to ease...

The Universe is inherently good . The Universe is actively trying to take us to our desires. The Universe knows what makes you happy and what are your inner and deepest desires . and it always is actively trying to push you towards your happiness. But we hold ourselves in a place of misery by actively holding on to the negative thoughts. 

You know why , the the negative feels or emotions cause so much pain ? because you are like that lighthouse that is standing against the huge waves. The waves (the universe) is constantly trying to sway you and sweep you towards your happiness , but you are being stubborn and you are standing in negativity (like the lighthouse) . The pain that you feel is caused because by holding yourself in a place of negativity (worrying , acknowledging absence , anger , betrayal) , you are constantly waging a war against the universe that is trying to take you to your happiness. 

SO , dont you think that giving up is the right thing to do. When you surrender yourself to the Universe , it takes you to the place where all your desires and manifestations are waiting for you. All you have to do is let go and give in. 

When we feel stuck or when we are in a bad place , that only means the we have created too much negative momentum ie; we are stuck in a web of negativity . And the more we try to find our way out of it , the more tight its grip on us becomes . 

So when we give in , when we let go , we try to go to a place of calm and comfort , where these tangled web of negativity slowly starts to get loose , and the more still we become , the further out of this web we find ourselves. Until there comes a point where there is no more negativity left , and from here the universe swoops in like superman .. and carries us to our goals. 

                                                                       Flow of the universe
                            >>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>  Your Desires.
                              <<<<<<<<<<<<<
                              Direction our negativity 
                              is dragging us towards. 

You maybe visualizing , imagining , appreciating , and if its working , good for you , but for those , who feel that all this feels a bit forced . know this , that you cant go from a place of negativity to a place of Positivity Directly . You have to go to a place of calmness before.The best way to stop negative thoughts is to stop thought altogether 

                        Bad feelings                              Calmness/ Content                    Happiness
                        >>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>



  So , how do you come to place of calmness . how do you stop the thoughts ?

You Meditate !!! ... Click here to know how...

And what do you do for the rest of the day . You live in the moment , I ll Discuss that in a separate blogpost.

Till then , Take care .

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I Want My Husband To Love Me Again

"I want my husband to love me again" is one of the most frequently echoed sentiments when it comes to relationship mending. Its becoming more and more common that women are feeling lonely and lost in what they feel are loveless marriages. But they do not want to give up even if it appears that their husband already has. The good news is that there are many ways to fix your marriage, or any long-term relationship, and bring back that love you once shared.

Mending a marriage can be complicated and there are many strategies that you can take to go about this. The results will depend on your individual situation and circumstances, but there are some questions you need to ask yourself. First of all, you obviously feel that your husband doesnt love you anymore or you wouldnt be stating "I want my husband to love me again." But has he told you this? Remember that men and women think and feel differently. There could be a big difference between the way he really feels and what you think he feels. If he has not left you, and he hasnt admitted to not having feelings for you anymore, then he probably does still love you, but there are some other things getting in the way that are confusing him.

One very common reason that husbands seem to stop displaying love to their wives is because the wife shifts her attention from him to the children. This is normal of course and you should put your kids as top priority. But if youve been paying very little to no attention to your husband, he may start to feel unappreciated and he could even feel a little resentment toward the children. While you would hope that is not the case, it is not uncommon, especially if the situation has become a permanent mother-tending-to-her-kids-all-the-time one. In early childhood, this is more understandable, but as children grow up, some of your attention should shift back over to your husband.

If your husband treats you with no admiration or respect, first take a look at how you are treating him. Whether he started this behavior or you did, you need to be the one to change it. Start complimenting him for the things he does do. And avoid badgering him for the things he doesnt. If all goes well, he will start to mirror your actions so just give it time. In the meantime, instead of focusing on him all the time (for better or for worse), try focusing on yourself. Make sure you are taking care of yourself and not just the kids and your husband. The better you feel about yourself, the more attractive you will be to others, including your husband.

Your wish of "I want my husband to love me again" can be granted if you just take that advice into consideration.

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