DOING THE IMPOSSIBLE !!!

The Impossible tasks ! 

What is Impossible? , You can tell me that the meaning lies in the word itself, some of the more positive people tell me that it is just a way to say, I AM POSSIBLE. I don’t really understand what that means…I mean yes I exist, ergo I am not just a possibility, but I am a truth, which you and everyone else on this planet will have to live with hopefully for the next 40 more years.

But then what is Impossible, and by extension, what is an impossible task? A impossible situation. I ll go ahead and explore what it means for an average person. It’s a place of No hope, or to put it in a more “non-depressing” way, it’s a task you have no idea how to accomplish, and even if you have an idea on how to do it, you are right now not in a state to implement that idea. To put it more simply, you don’t know how to get ‘there’ from ‘here’. You don’t know the path, or the path you know, you are in no position to walk on right now.


I ll take 2 examples, of impossible tasks, see if any one of it is applicable to you. 

1. Buying a House.

2. Getting back an Ex/Making a crush fall for you/ changing someone’s attitude. 


So you want to buy a house. So your mind says, its fairly simply, Make the money and then 
buy the house. Then you ask your mind, how do I make so much money. And the answer is usually, ‘Someday’. Till then I think you should rent. 

When it comes to changing someone’s mind about you, your mind is like, ‘lets keep trying’ , maybe we can wear them down by our nagging or persistence. And when the other person goes and blocks your number and phone, your mind is like “we tried our best, maybe it was not worth it, just sit and mope, complain occasionally, ‘Someday’ it will all change, wait till then, at least they will call you brave to put up with all this.”

So what happened in both the cases? In both cases your mind didn’t know how to get ‘there’, it tried all that it could, and when it didn’t work, your mind declared that there is no other way, and to conserve energy it made this problem a problem for your ‘future self’.

So then are we doomed to not buy that house, when we need it, or not be in a relationship of our choice. Not have the love and appreciation that we deserve?
No, we are forgetting something very important. Focus, and Desire. We usually don’t pay attention to the ‘thinking’ part, when all our problems lie in this physical world.

What if I tell you today, that the world doesn’t work the way you come to believe. We live in a world where we expect results to every action. And so happiness and relief is a ‘result’ for us, Result of an action that you take in the physical reality. How many times you would have caught yourself saying. 

“if only I could have that one thing, I would be that happiest person on the planet.”
This approach, this perspective about life leads us to the whole concept of Impossible.
Happiness and Bliss and relief are not ‘Results’, these are ‘Actions’ and such strong actions that they can actually open up, and show you a way towards an impossible situation.

The human brain is a stupid thing, it always assumes that it knows all there is to know about a situation, and so when find yourself in a place where you have to make a decision, your brain just assumes that it knows all possible ways, and that there is no other
way. But you and i both know from experience that, if we cant see a way, that doesnt mean that it doesnt exists.

So even if you don’t know the how of having that new house right now, don’t worry, don’t even put off your dream, because the ‘way’ in which you can have that house, that relationship, that dream come true, Right now,Exists ! You just don’t see it yet, and to see it, to see this path, this new way, light up in front of you, you have to just move a little towards your impossible goal, and how do you do that? You focus on having it right now, and you feel how it would feel to be in that perfect world where you have what you want. You discuss why you want it? How is it going to make you feel, you get excited about it. That is how you move towards it. And the best part, you don’t even have to do it all day. Writing or visualizing about your perfect resolution, 5 minutes every day before bed, and then not worrying about it all day is all it takes for you to see the new path light in front of you.


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Getting rid of Jealousy and insecurity

"Jealousy is an emotion, and the word typically refers to the thoughts and feelings of insecurity, fear, concern, and anxiety over an anticipated loss or status of something of great personal value, particularly in reference to a human connection."

The not so famous ,anticipated loss which has killed thousand , no millions of budding relationships still in their innocence. One person gets too attached to fast, fears that the other one isnt up-to speed, starts fearing losing something so great, pushing the other person away by starting to act weird. Not their fault, actually , you can blame all you want, but the harsh truth is none of you are at fault here . 

Everything got screwed up coz one of the biggest truth that governs almost everyone in this life and the world is ....

"With great love comes great fear of losing that great love"

That fear of losing, something that you love so much, the fear of something bad happening during the best of times. Its funny if you look at it in a way that you would never anticipate things suddenly getting better in the middle of chaos. It makes sense if you think about it...

People will always tell you to practice caution, always tell you to keep an eye out for some uncertain, uninvited, out of control , bad thing , that would just come and ruin everything good. They call it precaution, prevention. Basically keep an eye out so that a random bad thing wont walk in and ruin everything... But if that is true, and events are random, feelings and thoughts are random then why not be on a lookout for something random good that would just waltz in and ruin everything that is bad. Funny, right.

Ask anyone who has been into "the mode" for a while, apart from a string of Busted relationships, another thing that would be common with all of them would be the low self worth. Being insecure for a long time does that to you, and being the common factor in all those failures kinda leads a person to believe that there is something wrong with them. 

Middle script: I ll refer to the J-word as "The mode" 

It usually Goes on like this...

• You fall in love/ you start to like someone
• You decide that this is great. 
• Fear starts to creep in, "You dont wanna mess this up" 
• They miss a few calls or text msgs 
• You start assuming stuff 
• They miss some more calls, reschedule dates/ seem distracted
• You start to wonder what is wrong, They seemed to like you, then why the absence?
• You come to a conclusion that they might be into you.
• Makes you feel bad.
• The brain does what is does best, in situations like these
• Find an external source to blame
• You go stalking
• You work out the math/ statistics 
• And find a third person to blame/ come to a conclusion that there might be someone else.
• You become jealous/ start acting weird to grab attention. 
• You forget that this person already likes you
• Your out of character behavior drives this person away. 
• You become desperate/ either give up/ or do crazy stuff
• Finally you give up/ your self esteem has taken a hit/ There was someone better/ you were inferior  

People in "the mode" will often report about this "other guy" or "other girl" who would always be the competition, or trust issues even when the relationship was going on. 

Social media makes it worse. 

Everyone has their own way to deal with insecurity, here is what i did...

 I struggled with "the mode" for a long time, and i also concluded that i have fallen into the pattern of considering myself inferior to the competition. Feeling like the 2nd one always led me to feel like i was unattractive, which manifested physically as me getting tanned, gaining weight, hair loss.. and clicking some of the worst dps of all time. 

The pattern of failing relationships continued as well. So i got fed up, decided to reboot... my life, i mean, i knew LOA , sky was the limit, at-least theoretically. I gave it all up, left my job, uprooted from mumbai, moved back to my hometown.. to figure out how i can be the best ie; make a lot of money(guys kinda get a kick out of making money- youre gaining weight; make money! - Suffered a heartbreak; Make money! ), Coz if i am the best then i wont loose to anyone.

Started working out to get back in shape, ate the right stuff, even tried to increase my height by a few inches(didnt work), shaved my head to cure my hair. Time passed on, and the work out started to show results, i was in better shape, but that feeling was still there, coz i was hung up on my last heart break. But i was still far from being the best, My friends and family often told me that i was just torturing myself, throwing my life away, but i had to be the best, so that i would never loose again. I knew i had the problem of going into "the mode" and  i had to find was way to stop being insecure. Figured , if i was better than everyone, i would never be insecure again. 

Stumbling onto the solution

Then it hit me that, i cant be better than who i am, i mean better is anyway a relative term, so if you have to be better than someone, you need that someone to compare with, these someones would be the guys who would snatch away my "the one" every damn time.

Also, which one was i trying to surpass ? Was it the guy who works in her office, or her college friend, or her Ex boyfriend, or any random guy how would pay attention to her... Coz these guys seemed to be infinite in number.

I realized that there is always going to be someone better than me.. so if my problem really is that i think that i am less than them, then i am screwed , coz there is no solution to that.

Then i asked myself, are any of these girls really the best one out there, coz that cant be true, i know girls who are much more prettier, and more fun ... then why am i here, in love with these women.. who clearly arent the best. ???

The answer is love, what makes these relationship special is love, the kind of love that makes me feel a certain way..that other prettier girls dont . Even when i am comfortable with them, they will only be friends, and not special, because they dont make me feel what i need to feel to be in love.

So , if i am willing to settle for someone average (statistically) , shouldnt the other person see the same thing in me, and the fact that i did feel whatever lead me on, means that we both have what it takes to make each other feel whatever we need to feel in order to fall in love and commit.

By that logic, I am fine, and good enough. (It wouldnt have started if i wasnt good enough to be in their life.)

Wow , thats a lot of backstory, pardon me, you simply have to understand one thing..

The Fear that drives you into "the mode", the fear of losing the relationship, is irrational, coz if you wanna see threats there are 3.5 billion of them. Yes there are 3.5 billion other men/women out there, and if you fear "what if he/she runs into someone interesting?" , Guess what...that can happen anywhere and at anytime,  coz everyone in his/her vicinity is interesting in some capacity. And who knows , anything can click with anyone.

What do you do then? I have personally tried to act out of character, just to get attention, i have faked sickness and injury just because i wanted the other person to care... so that i can speed up thing unnaturally. I have seen people turn clingy , crazy , unreasonable and the worst of all controlling. I have seen people forbid their "special someone" to have contact with friends, best friends even family members. But is that the way to keep anyone around? 

Yes.. thats you.. 

The solution

You need to put yourself in the other persons shoes for a while. Would you run off after every random interesting person even when you have a good thing going on with a person that you have chosen to like? If you would... then serves you right, you deserve to be abandoned! But if you are one of the normal ones... you would hold on to the interesting person you already have in your life, coz they are important, and you would like to give it a chance, whatever this is....Now come back into your own shoes, you have to know that there is no competition... If you have invited a decent person in your life,  and this person has chosen to stay, then they will not leave you.. you need not be threatened.. what you really need to pay attention to, is the relationship that you share with this person and cherish it more so that it can transform into something much more solid. 

See... you can waste your time worrying about loss of love... or you can just love. Its you and the other person, no one can come in between you unless you put them there. 

If the love between you two is growing then there is no room for a third person coming in between... This is not about trust, this is about wisdom. Be wise enough to not leave room for a third person, by not paying attention to them. (here i am transcending the laws of psychology and treading into Law of attraction , so you muggles can stop reading now) .

You get whatever you invite, so by being jealous of their best friend/ex/colleague/ family members, you are just inviting them to disrupt your relationship. Hell, just by fearing the loss of the love that you have you are inviting a circumstance that would make that happen (moving out of town/country/planet, finding someone new/ just losing interest because of depression/loss/work/something else). No they are not going to be in love with your "special someone"(that is between them and your special someone) but it will sure seem like that to you , coz you have invited it, and that is what the universe will manifest further. There is no such thing as competition, until you invent and invite it. 

So you want things to get better, you want to see more of them , maybe take the relationship a step further, and you have come to know about this desire of yours through the contrast that you have been feeling in your interactions with them(missing them/ wanting more of them/ feeling the need to take thing further), then, start being appreciative and grateful for what you have with them, and then dream about where you want to take it further, and make sure to explore how it would feel when you are where you want to be. 

take care. 

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THE ATTITUDE FOR MANIFESTATION

You, me, everyone is at all time telling something or the other to the universe, via our feelings, and the universe is telling us stuff back, by making us feel things.

In a system where the primary form of communication is feelings, Having the right attitude or an outlook or a perspective is very important.

Since long you and i have been hearing to people telling us, to be positive, to keep an upbeat attitude, to show gratitude for all that you have, and for all that you want. All these things, in themselves serve a purpose, a purpose, that when you focus on a thing you like, it will expand.

But what I am talking about today, is attitude, a fresh perspective. Its the perspective of choice!

When life shows us some stuff that we dont have yet, it doesnt mean that the universe is mocking you and that you should feel bad about it, no... We know that every topic is 2 topics the absence and the presence of it , and what side you will notice will depend on your perspective of life.

The perspective that we need, to have is the perspective of presence.

"Look at your life, in a way where you notice and appreciate all the things that you already have.. are grateful and generally happy with all you have, where you spend your time living in the pleasure of experience of all the things that are right with your life, and See the things that you dont have yet, as things that you now want to add to make your already awesome life, More Awesome."

"This Sounds good, lets add this to my life" sounds much better and easier than , " i dont have this! how do i get this ? " 

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The best and the fastest way to manifest something is to have a generally happy attitude, and by happy i dont mean, Putting a brave face, while crying inside, pining for something that you think is missing..... When i say happy, Look at your life, if all that is present in your life, is good, then right now you have no reason to be sad. then you can be happy. if right now there is nothing out there to get you , nothing that becomes an annoyance..Then your life is generally good.. and so you cant be in the state of anxiety, just because you dont have that one thing that you have wanted for so long.

You have to understand that there will always be something you will want , once you get this one thing, you will want another , and another and another, so you cant have this attitude of pining for things, why dont you just be at peace, appreciate all that you have, be generally happy, and then order the universe around.. to get you what you want... by... saying...

Universe, i like this, i want this, it would be amazing to have this in my already amazing life, get this to me in the fastest easiest and the best way possible. or show me the best fastest and the easiest path to it."

That is it ... now let the universe plan and plot .. and get you what you want.

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