Relationship Insights ! Personality test

I took this test in the fall of 2013 . It gave me a lot of insight when i was suffering in a relationship. I ll describe my take on this once you are done with the test. 

To look within.

NO CHEATING! That will take all the fun out of it.

This is a very interesting test. Try it.

Have a pen and paper handy before you read any further. As soon as you read a question, write the answer right away.

Make sure to answer questions 1-8 before moving on…NO CHEATING!!

Read the following questions, imagining the scenes in your mind, and write down the FIRST thing that you visualize. Do not think about the questions excessively.

1. You are not alone. You are walking in the woods. Who are you walking with?

2. You are walking in the woods. You see an animal. What kind of animal is it?

3. What interaction takes place between you and the animal?

4. You walk deeper in the woods. You enter a clearing and before you is your dream house. Describe its size?

5. Is your dream house surrounded by a fence?

6. You enter the house. You walk to the dining area and see the dining room table. Describe what you see on AND around the table.

7. You exit the house through the back door. Lying in the grass is a cup. What material is the cup made of?

8. What do you do with the cup?

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This has been a relational psychology test. The answers given to the questions have been shown to have a relevance to values and ideals that we hold in our personal lives. Its more of a reflection on how you are currently perceiving your relationship with someone. The analysis follows:

1. The person who you are walking with is the most important person in your life.

2. The size of the animal is representative of your perception of the size of your problems.

3. The severity of the interaction you have with the animal is representative of how you deal with your problems. (passive/aggressive)

4. The size of your dream house is representative of the size of your ambition to resolve your problems.

5. No fence is indicative of an open personality. People are welcome at all times. The presence of a fence indicates a closed personality. You’d prefer people not to drop by unannounced.

6. If your answer did not include food, people, or flowers, then you are generally unhappy.

7. The durability of the material with which the cup is made of is representative of the perceived durability of your relationship with the person named in number 1. For example, Styrofoam, and paper are all disposable, Styrofoam, paper and glass are not durable, and metal and plastic are durable.

8. Your disposition of the cup is representative of your attitude towards the person in number 1.

My own test results: 

I was in relationship dump when i first took this one... gave me a lot of insight and clarity .

Here is what happened. 

Question 1: You are not alone. You are walking in the woods. Who are you walking with?

Answer 1. I saw myself walking with this girl that i had been in love with for a long time, but things werent working out. Lets call her Robin to protect the identity of the innocent . 

Analysis : Yes she was kinda always on my mind, so its safe to say that she was and still is important. 

Question 2: You are walking in the woods. You see an animal. What kind of animal is it?

Answer 2: The animal that i saw was a Deer, a Stag to be more precise, had antlers and all, strong and robust. 

Come at me bro ! :p

Analysis :  Now deer is a medium sized animal , and is a quite docile one generally, until you go a lock horns with it. Same for my problems in my relationship, they were there , they werent monumental , but yes they gave me a lot of pain , if i tried to solve them , or approach them aggressively with an intent to solve them. The test says that animal is representative of the perception of the size of my problem. Perception being the key word here. Perception is my own view of the world, and often it doesnt really have any roots in Actual reality. In a objective world view, nothing no where is Right or Wrong, and so my problems are not really problems, they are more like situations, that are just present, And have the choice to give these situations the power to make me feel good or bad by assigning them the tag of good or bad. So my perception will constantly change with how hopeful i am or how fearful i am regarding a particular situation. So the more hopeful i am, the smaller the animal will be, and smaller my problem will actually be.  That is a relief. 

Question 3: What interaction takes place between you and the animal?

Answer 3: The stag looks at me , i dont react , it runs away. 

Analysis : In the past i have been the, Fight it out , deal with it kinda person, but recently i have been more of a at peace , i just wanna be happy kinda person so, i didnt aggravate my problems, and so th

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Get Your Lover Back Forever

Love is beautiful and desired by everyone. Everyone seeks love and craves to keep it when they finally find it. But once a person has found his or her true love, they are willing to go to any ends of the world because they realize how rare it is to find true love in a lifetime.

Usually, destiny brings lovers together which marks the beginning of good things to come. People in love are always happy together, smiling and in a beautiful world of their own. However, despite the great bond that exists between lovers, it is common to hear of breakups, separation and divorce even among the most loving couples. Having enjoyed the good feelings that love brings, it is devastating, traumatic and emotionally ravaging; and you end up finding ways to "how to get your ex back." If your lover has broken your heart and left you; if your spouses love for you is gradually changing to hate; if there is someone you are madly in love with but they do not even look at you and you no longer know what to do then, take your destiny in your hands by contacting a specialist to get your love back by black magic. 

Many times people do not even realize that their relationship was on the verge of break up until it is too late. So I have cited a few warning signs that precede a break up.

• The Love Wanes: Lovers do not just change all of a sudden, it is gradual; but the other party does not notice until the love goes into extinction. You can know that your lovers love is diminishing when he or she stops admiring you, when he does not tell you "youre beautiful," "I love you," when he does not look into your eyes any longer; it is likely that the fire of the love is going out.
• The Care Stops: Before your lover walks away, the care for you must have long stopped. He/she does not phone you like before; he/she does not ask about your welfare; he/she stops looking out for you; he/she stays late at work and tries as much as possible to avoid you.
• Outbreak of Anger: When your lover suddenly becomes angry at you obviously for no reason, when he/she shouts at you and attacks you physically, he/she is heading to other exit door.

If your lover is yet to leave you but has shown few of the above signs; or your lovers love has turned to hate, do not be devastated. The good news is that you can get your love back by black magic. There are love spells that work to bring back your ex begging for your love all over again. People who are not well informed consider black magic to be evil; but the truth is that black magic if used by an experienced spell caster can be used in positive ways: 

• Black magic includes the use of love spells that work to make your ex return to you.
• It involves the use of powerful spells to enhance love related issues. 
• Black magic can be used like the white magic to effectively remove the negativity that beclouded the mind of your lover and reignite the love and passion between you so your happiness can be restored.

Get your love back by black magic is the best solution to how to get your ex back. Magic love spells have long been in use for centuries in the world history to get back your lover. If your lover recently broke up with you and you want him/her back, you should consider having black magic love spell cast on him. It involves the performing a powerful love ritual that would rid your lover of the negative imagination, hateful feelings and wrong perception about you. Even if your lover has distanced himself/herself under a hypnotic influence, the black magic will de-hypnotize and bring him/her back. Immediately the black magic spell is cast on your ex, the cloud that covered his/her mind would be removed and thoughts of how much you really mean to him/her will flood his/her mind, to the extent that he/she will not be able to wait a minute longer to come back into your life. Part of the effects of the black magic to get your ex back is that it will make them: 

• remember the great times you had together
• realize how much he/she has hurt you and be repentant
• have only positive thoughts and memories of you
• start to miss you seriously
• come back to you without having to play any games.

Using black magic to get your ex back is neither dark nor evil, as it does not manipulate or mess with your exs freewill. Put an end to wishful desires to have your ex back; stop crying and suffering while there is a solution right before your eyes. Your search on how to get your ex back has come to an end by reading and acting on these facts. Contrary to the misconception that using black magic could turn your ex or lover to a zombie, black magic will only remove the negative thoughts and feelings from his/her mind; his/her reasoning power is not tampered with.

It should be mentioned, however, that using love spells that work to regain your lost love requires great skills and experience for it to be effective. The use of vashikaran also requires a vashikaran specialist to perform. Vashikaran comprises two words: vashi and karan with meanings explained below:

Vashi: attract, excite or influence the desired person

Karan: technique or method 

Vashikaran involves attracting and controlling the thoughts, minds, action, behavior and feelings of the desired person. You can use vashikaran spells to get your ex back. 

All you need to do is call me on +91 9916785193 and ask for Kenn. I am a spell caster and have more than 30 years of experience.  I am a psychic healer, vashikaran specialist, black magic specialist professionally experienced to help bring back your ex. You can feel loved again. You can be cared for all over again. Your love fire will be rekindled and deep emotions released into the heart of your ex. You can live everyday of your life with love in the air by letting me perform love rituals that will last a lifetime for you.

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An Unusual Personality Test That Will Surprise You!

Read the story below and answer as spontaneously and quickly as possible.

There are two neighboring islands. In the first one live two men: an uncivilized savage and a civilized man. In the other island there are several people, among them a girl who is in love and has a relationship with the civilized man

The girl wants to go to the opposite island to meet her lover. She asks the only boatman of the island how much he wants to take her there. The boatman says that he does not want money and he will take her to the other island if she is naked in the boat. The girl is shocked… not knowing what to do she goes to the wise man of the island to ask for help. He listens to her story with attention and gives the following advice: “Do what your heart tells you, my child…” So the girl decides to accept the proposal of the boatman in order to meet her beloved man. So, they go to the other island. But when they arrive, the savage is on the seafront and gets crazy at the sight of the naked woman so he rapes her… At the same moment the civilized man comes and sees the scene. He goes mad and tells the girl that he does not want her anymore and she must leave immediately…

 Evaluate the 5 characters of the story (savage, civilized man, girl, boatman, wise man) from the best to the worst, so that the number 1 is the character that you believe to be the best person of the story and the 5th is the worst of all.


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Interpretation 

Each character of the story represents a priority in your life: 

Savage = how important is sex for you; 
Civilized man = importance of other people’s opinion; 
Girl = your need for emotional relationship; 
Boatman = your need for earning money; 
Wise man = how much you rely on logic.



Credits: Learning mind 
Anna Lemind

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Getting rid of Jealousy and insecurity

"Jealousy is an emotion, and the word typically refers to the thoughts and feelings of insecurity, fear, concern, and anxiety over an anticipated loss or status of something of great personal value, particularly in reference to a human connection."

The not so famous ,anticipated loss which has killed thousand , no millions of budding relationships still in their innocence. One person gets too attached to fast, fears that the other one isnt up-to speed, starts fearing losing something so great, pushing the other person away by starting to act weird. Not their fault, actually , you can blame all you want, but the harsh truth is none of you are at fault here . 

Everything got screwed up coz one of the biggest truth that governs almost everyone in this life and the world is ....

"With great love comes great fear of losing that great love"

That fear of losing, something that you love so much, the fear of something bad happening during the best of times. Its funny if you look at it in a way that you would never anticipate things suddenly getting better in the middle of chaos. It makes sense if you think about it...

People will always tell you to practice caution, always tell you to keep an eye out for some uncertain, uninvited, out of control , bad thing , that would just come and ruin everything good. They call it precaution, prevention. Basically keep an eye out so that a random bad thing wont walk in and ruin everything... But if that is true, and events are random, feelings and thoughts are random then why not be on a lookout for something random good that would just waltz in and ruin everything that is bad. Funny, right.

Ask anyone who has been into "the mode" for a while, apart from a string of Busted relationships, another thing that would be common with all of them would be the low self worth. Being insecure for a long time does that to you, and being the common factor in all those failures kinda leads a person to believe that there is something wrong with them. 

Middle script: I ll refer to the J-word as "The mode" 

It usually Goes on like this...

• You fall in love/ you start to like someone
• You decide that this is great. 
• Fear starts to creep in, "You dont wanna mess this up" 
• They miss a few calls or text msgs 
• You start assuming stuff 
• They miss some more calls, reschedule dates/ seem distracted
• You start to wonder what is wrong, They seemed to like you, then why the absence?
• You come to a conclusion that they might be into you.
• Makes you feel bad.
• The brain does what is does best, in situations like these
• Find an external source to blame
• You go stalking
• You work out the math/ statistics 
• And find a third person to blame/ come to a conclusion that there might be someone else.
• You become jealous/ start acting weird to grab attention. 
• You forget that this person already likes you
• Your out of character behavior drives this person away. 
• You become desperate/ either give up/ or do crazy stuff
• Finally you give up/ your self esteem has taken a hit/ There was someone better/ you were inferior  

People in "the mode" will often report about this "other guy" or "other girl" who would always be the competition, or trust issues even when the relationship was going on. 

Social media makes it worse. 

Everyone has their own way to deal with insecurity, here is what i did...

 I struggled with "the mode" for a long time, and i also concluded that i have fallen into the pattern of considering myself inferior to the competition. Feeling like the 2nd one always led me to feel like i was unattractive, which manifested physically as me getting tanned, gaining weight, hair loss.. and clicking some of the worst dps of all time. 

The pattern of failing relationships continued as well. So i got fed up, decided to reboot... my life, i mean, i knew LOA , sky was the limit, at-least theoretically. I gave it all up, left my job, uprooted from mumbai, moved back to my hometown.. to figure out how i can be the best ie; make a lot of money(guys kinda get a kick out of making money- youre gaining weight; make money! - Suffered a heartbreak; Make money! ), Coz if i am the best then i wont loose to anyone.

Started working out to get back in shape, ate the right stuff, even tried to increase my height by a few inches(didnt work), shaved my head to cure my hair. Time passed on, and the work out started to show results, i was in better shape, but that feeling was still there, coz i was hung up on my last heart break. But i was still far from being the best, My friends and family often told me that i was just torturing myself, throwing my life away, but i had to be the best, so that i would never loose again. I knew i had the problem of going into "the mode" and  i had to find was way to stop being insecure. Figured , if i was better than everyone, i would never be insecure again. 

Stumbling onto the solution

Then it hit me that, i cant be better than who i am, i mean better is anyway a relative term, so if you have to be better than someone, you need that someone to compare with, these someones would be the guys who would snatch away my "the one" every damn time.

Also, which one was i trying to surpass ? Was it the guy who works in her office, or her college friend, or her Ex boyfriend, or any random guy how would pay attention to her... Coz these guys seemed to be infinite in number.

I realized that there is always going to be someone better than me.. so if my problem really is that i think that i am less than them, then i am screwed , coz there is no solution to that.

Then i asked myself, are any of these girls really the best one out there, coz that cant be true, i know girls who are much more prettier, and more fun ... then why am i here, in love with these women.. who clearly arent the best. ???

The answer is love, what makes these relationship special is love, the kind of love that makes me feel a certain way..that other prettier girls dont . Even when i am comfortable with them, they will only be friends, and not special, because they dont make me feel what i need to feel to be in love.

So , if i am willing to settle for someone average (statistically) , shouldnt the other person see the same thing in me, and the fact that i did feel whatever lead me on, means that we both have what it takes to make each other feel whatever we need to feel in order to fall in love and commit.

By that logic, I am fine, and good enough. (It wouldnt have started if i wasnt good enough to be in their life.)

Wow , thats a lot of backstory, pardon me, you simply have to understand one thing..

The Fear that drives you into "the mode", the fear of losing the relationship, is irrational, coz if you wanna see threats there are 3.5 billion of them. Yes there are 3.5 billion other men/women out there, and if you fear "what if he/she runs into someone interesting?" , Guess what...that can happen anywhere and at anytime,  coz everyone in his/her vicinity is interesting in some capacity. And who knows , anything can click with anyone.

What do you do then? I have personally tried to act out of character, just to get attention, i have faked sickness and injury just because i wanted the other person to care... so that i can speed up thing unnaturally. I have seen people turn clingy , crazy , unreasonable and the worst of all controlling. I have seen people forbid their "special someone" to have contact with friends, best friends even family members. But is that the way to keep anyone around? 

Yes.. thats you.. 

The solution

You need to put yourself in the other persons shoes for a while. Would you run off after every random interesting person even when you have a good thing going on with a person that you have chosen to like? If you would... then serves you right, you deserve to be abandoned! But if you are one of the normal ones... you would hold on to the interesting person you already have in your life, coz they are important, and you would like to give it a chance, whatever this is....Now come back into your own shoes, you have to know that there is no competition... If you have invited a decent person in your life,  and this person has chosen to stay, then they will not leave you.. you need not be threatened.. what you really need to pay attention to, is the relationship that you share with this person and cherish it more so that it can transform into something much more solid. 

See... you can waste your time worrying about loss of love... or you can just love. Its you and the other person, no one can come in between you unless you put them there. 

If the love between you two is growing then there is no room for a third person coming in between... This is not about trust, this is about wisdom. Be wise enough to not leave room for a third person, by not paying attention to them. (here i am transcending the laws of psychology and treading into Law of attraction , so you muggles can stop reading now) .

You get whatever you invite, so by being jealous of their best friend/ex/colleague/ family members, you are just inviting them to disrupt your relationship. Hell, just by fearing the loss of the love that you have you are inviting a circumstance that would make that happen (moving out of town/country/planet, finding someone new/ just losing interest because of depression/loss/work/something else). No they are not going to be in love with your "special someone"(that is between them and your special someone) but it will sure seem like that to you , coz you have invited it, and that is what the universe will manifest further. There is no such thing as competition, until you invent and invite it. 

So you want things to get better, you want to see more of them , maybe take the relationship a step further, and you have come to know about this desire of yours through the contrast that you have been feeling in your interactions with them(missing them/ wanting more of them/ feeling the need to take thing further), then, start being appreciative and grateful for what you have with them, and then dream about where you want to take it further, and make sure to explore how it would feel when you are where you want to be. 

take care. 

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