PULL It Together

Those who want help save marriage from ending in divorce need to PULL it together. It is a hard thing to watch a marriage that was once so precious and important fall apart. Its heart breaking to sit by as the two of you start going your separate ways. If you dont want that to happen then do something about it. Pull it together to help save marriage.


Chill out

Take a moment to catch your breath and step back from the situation. Not necessarily take

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a break from it but to just calm down. It is easy for things to get over-heated. Take a moment to catch your breath and give it a moment to cool off. When you were young you were probably told to count to 10 when you got angry so that you could give yourself a chance to get yourself under control.

The same principle applies here. Before you do anything else, take a breath. The next time something is said to you that makes you mad, calm down, get a hold of yourself and then let go of your anger. Only then can you truly learn how to communicate and take the next step to help save marriage.

Understand what is happening

While you are “chilling out” and taking a moment to breathe, take a look at what is happening. This is where you try and look at the big picture and then look at things from other perspectives. From where you are standing at the moment things may look pretty bad. Try to look at it from other perspectives and it might not be as bad as you thought.

Try looking at it from an outsiders perspective and from the one you love. From those other perspectives you might find out why things have been getting out of control. There may be a relatively simple solution to help save marriage.

Laugh at yourselves

This doesnt mean to make light of the situation but it does mean dont take yourselves so seriously. It is easy to make mountains out of mole hills. Things snowball out of control but when you are able to see what it was that actually made the snowball you may end up laughing at it.

It can be hilarious to find out how a minuscule thing can turn into something so huge when it didnt have to. It can be hilarious if you are willing to let it be. Many times when people go through a rough time they will say, “Sometime we are going to look back at this and laugh!” Why wait?

Look for ways to improve

Once you have had a chance to step back and catch your breath and then been able to get some perspective on the situation, you can move on. When you have realized that at its root, this situation or problems that you have been struggling with is really small and manageable you can get things on track.

The next thing that you need to do is commit yourself to finding a way to improve. If you are responsible for the little things that get blown out of proportion, then try stopping it. If you have learned that you overreact, then stop it. Improve the way you handle situations and everything else may just fall into place to help save marriage.

To help save marriage, PULL together and bring back what belongs together...the two of you.

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Sing Me A Love Song On This Valentines Day

What makes a great love song? The truth is, a songwriter didnt compose a great love song, a singer didnt sing a great love song, but the ones who listen to it make it great, especially when two twine together as one - a romance. We, therefore, are the ones who pick it one in "Top 10 love songs" or "Best love songs ever."

Even my ex-boyfriend and I used to have that as our song - "Lover, I dont have to love" by Bright Eyes. It seemed foolish because its song title, lyrics, and even melody are bittersweet and melancholy. We didnt understand why we were listening to this song over and over, maybe just because we both found it a remarkable rhythm at that time. However, love dont live here anymore. Now I have to forget the sad tune, find myself a new squeeze who sings me a new "our song."

Ah, Valentines Day! Every February 14, and during the weeks leading to this day, couples send beautiful flowers, meaningful cards, and sweet chocolates to their darlings and explore their romantic sides. And a perfect dreamy night with serene melodies is the norm. So, sing me a love song and be my Valentine! When your sweetheart comes to say this to you, what song will you choose? Theres no better time than Valentines Day to turn our musical choices passionate.

Recently, Ive heard some wonderful love tracks. So, narrowing down my list to just 10 "best of" tunes took a lot of thought. If you dont find your favorites here, send me an email at kittykitcoldplay@yahoo.com. Now, cool off and sit awhile with me, and read some exciting stuffs about my picks of 10 romantic songs for Valentines Day:

1) You And Me (Lifehouse)
It makes my heart melt. There is a sense of peacefulness every time I hear this song. Such a melodious and gifted voice! All in all this is a true gem.

2) The Other Side of the World (KT Tunstall)
This nice radiopop is well crafted and remarkable. What I mean is that I keep remembering this song because I like the way she sings and phrases. A sparkling new singer-songwriter.

3) The Scientist (Coldplay)
The song is beautifully crafted and the unprocessed passion in Martins voice is almost heartbreaking. The best love song yet! An incredibly moving song!

4) Youre Beautiful (James Blunt)
Just beautiful tune! This piece means so much to me and although Ive heard it many times I still enjoy listening even now. A unique voice that really stands out.

5) Smooth (Santana featuring Rob Thomas)
This has a nice Santana feel. This smooth song rocks. This awesome Latin song is just sensual and also great to dance with.

6) Wherever You Will Go (The Calling)
If I could make you mine, Ill go wherever you will go. Thumbs up for the melody.

7) If I Thought Youd Ever Change Your Mind (Agnetha Faltskog)
"And in the winter snow, my songs would keep you from the cold." The lyrics are soooooooo nice and so is the voice of ABBA. Its totally enjoyable to hear her crystal clear pure sound once again.

8) Crazy In Love (Eminem)
Love the title and love the song! And oh, the lyrics! Slim Shady finally created a non-classic-rap. It sounds like a poem "You are the meaning of my existence, "Youre essential to me, Youre the air I breathe, I believe if you ever leave me, Id probably have no reason to be."

9) The Look Of Love (Diana Krall)
The look of love sees the invisible in the visible and the sound of love is smooth. A gorgeous love song. A cuddle by the fireside with the one you love.

10) When You Tell Me That You Love Me (Westlife featuring Diana Ross)
Westlife is back to raise you up with a new cover of a famous song. Moreover, this song is a nice comeback to the pop ballads that made them well known. Just tell your honey that you adore her or him with this cute tune.

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DEBT AND LAW OF ATTRACTION !

First off all , lets not argue about "but from where the money will come ?" , its none of your business ! , its the universes business , so you just sit pretty while the universe finds a way to come up with the Money .For my more skeptical friends , Please relax and let the universe show you , "How the money is going to come. "

Now that being said , we can move on to the topic at hand , that is DEBT ! 

Being is Debt is bad , being constantly chased by creditors is annoying and at the same time takes toll over our self esteem and image.  

Many of us have at some point in our life have found ourselves in debt , we owe money , and we dont have enough to pay back . And believe me , i know , this feeling sucks , especially if you are not an habitual defaulter.

Many people ask me about law of attraction and Money , can LOA be used to manifest money , can it help them to clear off their debts ?

The Answer is Yes ! it can ! But , like any application of LOA , it can be really easy or really difficult to implement , depends on your current mindset. 

Now look at "Settlement of Debt" as a need , so when applying LOA on this matter , we calculate the amount of money we need to settle the debt and ask the universe to deliver through visualization , imagination , listing out things to be thankful for and stuff , if these work for you , then just close this page , because you are An LOA Master and you dont need to be here , go enjoy your money , but if these dont work , read on.

The universe manifests the essence of your desires by picking up on your emotions and feelings. So sometimes concentrating on an "BIG Amount of money to pay off your debt , when there is no obvious source of income in sight , can be a little difficult , it can also , evoke Negative emotions of doubt and uncertainty. 

SO whats the alternative ?

Its. simple , we take the money factor out of the manifestation. Just listen to me for a second ,before lighting the torches and picking up your pitchforks .  Its simple , 

"The manifestation we are aiming for is Debt settlement not manifesting Money ! "

Let me explain with an example ....

Meet Steve , Steve has lost his job due to something inevitable. And now with no monthly income to support him , Steve is facing a Huge Credit card Outstanding , lets say USD 30000 ! Maybe he bought a Train for all i care , but the truth is he is in debt , and he has no way of paying it off in the future . Now he can declare bankruptcy and get the credit card people off his back , but lets be honest , declaring Bankruptcy isnt cheap . that will be the last nail in the coffin. 

What Steve needs to do is to address the elephant in the room , or better , imagine the room without the elephant ! 

The need here is to settle the debt , and the only logical solution Steves brain is giving him is "Get some Money" But with the bad market and all (again a belief of Steves Brain) it seems impossible at the moment. So what does he do ? He leaves it to the universe. 

What Steves Brain doesnt understand is that the HOW of this manifestation will be taken care off by the universe , who has access to all the 3600 Thousand Trillion Dollars on the earth , And Steves Debt is a measly 0.0000000000000001 % of that wealth. So all Steve has to do now is concentrate on the feeling he is going to feel while he is repaying the Debt. 

So, Steve sits Down , and He relaxes , He Takes deep breaths and he remembers the fact that he is the creator of his own experience in this reality  . And he Asks himself ....

              "How will i feel , when this debt is paid ? " 

What does this debt settlement stand for , the answer is simple , RELAXATION  ! Steve will be able to finally relax once the debt is paid . and through that Relaxation will come Happiness. 

Knowing this Steve now , imagines that he is paying his debt off, he is writing a cheque , and he is handing it over to the people he owes money , or he is Transferring funds from his account and paying off all his debt , and while doing so , a feeling of relaxation is sweeping over him. Now he is no longer under debt , and great burden is off his shoulders and he is feeling free and light and  mildly elated. He keeps feeling these feelings , looses track of time , drifts off to sleep.
 

Next Morning he wakes up , freshens up , sits down with a pen and paper , Writes down ....

"Thank you universe for such an amazing resolution , i feel so free and light , now that i have cleared off all my debts . And the best part , there is money left with me after , to help me start over again. Thank you universe for taking care of me ! " 

He spends the day without a care in the world and in the evening , receives a text that his account has been debited with 60000 USD . 

So folks what did we learn ?

1. Its the feelings that matter. SO find a way to feel "That way". 

2. You manifestation aint in the future , its now , when asking for a desire , act as if you have it "NOW"

3. The universe is Generous , it will give you more than you could have ever imagined or expected. 

4. Its possible for you to feel "That way" without an actual manifestation. 

5. Goal setting is good , but Dont be stuck on a date , Maybe the universe wants to deliver it ahead of time. 

6. When ever you are imagining or visualizing , Do it in the Present tense , do it as if you have everything now. Your imagination is your happy place , you are not bound by physical limitations , so go Nuts ! 

 
pS. This Example was based of a real experience of one of the readers. :)

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How to Look After Turtles

Hey, I am Torty the tormented turtle and I stay as a pet in your terrapinarium. I am from a very respectable and well known family which can proudly declare to be the oldest surviving creatures of this planet! My ancestors inhabited this earth about 215 million years back, much before your forefathers; I mean the first human being appeared on it. Believe it or not, the enormous, fierce, and elegant dinosaurs were their next door neighbors!

But here, right now, I am sorry to pronounce that I am not happy at all. Everyday you watch me to have a great fun while I swim and glide back and forth inside the tank, but do you really have any concern for me? Do you love me? No, I suppose! Today let me tell you frankly that you do not take proper care of me at all. Day in and day out I suffer from various ailments just due to lack of your attention.

Unfortunately I can not express my pain and agony because God has not given me a vocal cord. I can not even scream for any help and suffer mutely from terrible pains. My tear blends silently with the awfully dirty water of the tank which you hardly cleaned or filtered.

But are you bothered for that? No, not at all! I am hurt and helpless and in real trouble, just because of your negligence! Well, it is said, to err is human and being a human you are also likely to commit error. Let me forgive this time and give a fair chance you.

I sincerely hope you will follow the guidelines given below and change your attitude henceforth:

Keep my surroundings and the tank water clean.
Provide balanced diet to keep me out of deficiency diseases.
While handling, hold me gently but firmly but please dont drop me on the floor.
I need a heater, a UV light, and a basking platform fitted in the tank as I am a cold blooded animal and cannot tolerate winter chill. Else I may hibernate!
While I hibernate, keep watching me to observe any unusual change.

Always consult a veterinary doctor in case you see the following symptoms:

Red and swollen eyes, breathing trouble, difficulty in swimming, loss of appetite, nasal secretions, bleeding wounds, soft and leathery carapace, or cracks on the shell.

For Gods sake try to be a loving and caring pet owner!

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A WAY OUT OF NEGATIVITY !

So whats the deal with the universe Anyway ? From what we have been hearing , the Universe responds to your vibration... good or Bad vibration is responded with matching manifestations. The universe is neutral when it comes to manifestations , and you are the one responsible for your own vibrations and your own manifestations . 

So be afraid , Be very afraid... because there is no one coming to your rescue , its all your responsibility .

This one thought drives a lot of new LOAers up the walls .You start reveling in the awesome power of the universe , and then you have a negative thought , and you get scared , because negative thoughts attract to you more negative thoughts , and in turn negative situations and manifestations , so you try to wrestle that negative thought to the ground, and in doing so , you make the situations even worst. 

Ok have i scared you enough ? I have !? i am sorry... 

Ok let me put this one scary thought to ease...

The Universe is inherently good . The Universe is actively trying to take us to our desires. The Universe knows what makes you happy and what are your inner and deepest desires . and it always is actively trying to push you towards your happiness. But we hold ourselves in a place of misery by actively holding on to the negative thoughts. 

You know why , the the negative feels or emotions cause so much pain ? because you are like that lighthouse that is standing against the huge waves. The waves (the universe) is constantly trying to sway you and sweep you towards your happiness , but you are being stubborn and you are standing in negativity (like the lighthouse) . The pain that you feel is caused because by holding yourself in a place of negativity (worrying , acknowledging absence , anger , betrayal) , you are constantly waging a war against the universe that is trying to take you to your happiness. 

SO , dont you think that giving up is the right thing to do. When you surrender yourself to the Universe , it takes you to the place where all your desires and manifestations are waiting for you. All you have to do is let go and give in. 

When we feel stuck or when we are in a bad place , that only means the we have created too much negative momentum ie; we are stuck in a web of negativity . And the more we try to find our way out of it , the more tight its grip on us becomes . 

So when we give in , when we let go , we try to go to a place of calm and comfort , where these tangled web of negativity slowly starts to get loose , and the more still we become , the further out of this web we find ourselves. Until there comes a point where there is no more negativity left , and from here the universe swoops in like superman .. and carries us to our goals. 

                                                                       Flow of the universe
                            >>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>  Your Desires.
                              <<<<<<<<<<<<<
                              Direction our negativity 
                              is dragging us towards. 

You maybe visualizing , imagining , appreciating , and if its working , good for you , but for those , who feel that all this feels a bit forced . know this , that you cant go from a place of negativity to a place of Positivity Directly . You have to go to a place of calmness before.The best way to stop negative thoughts is to stop thought altogether 

                        Bad feelings                              Calmness/ Content                    Happiness
                        >>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>



  So , how do you come to place of calmness . how do you stop the thoughts ?

You Meditate !!! ... Click here to know how...

And what do you do for the rest of the day . You live in the moment , I ll Discuss that in a separate blogpost.

Till then , Take care .

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How To Tell that My Ex Want To Get Back With Me

If your ex is showing you a little bit of interest, or seems more interested in going out and spending time with you than before, or if you notice signs that your ex is trying to flirt with you, then its okay to be a little hopeful but you need to avoid jumping the gun. Are you as

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king yourself "does my ex want to get back with me"?

These are definitely very common signs that your ex is interested in getting you back. But even if you want to get back with your ex, you should not simply jump into things. The best way to play things is to play hard to get (in moderation), which is probably what your ex will best respond to anyway. If you simply jump into things full force, then you may find your ex pushing you back again. In fact, if your ex is giving indications that he or she wants you back, then the odds are, it was you playing hard to get that led to the renewed interest in the first place.

Usually when you break up with your ex, or he or she breaks up with you, there is a natural level of missing one another, or longing to get back together. This is especially true following a relationship of a year or longer. Your ex is probably going to miss you no matter what, because of how many memories were shared together during this period of time. But there are other emotions that come into play including past regrets. If you are wondering "does my ex want to get back with me" the odds are that your ex may be thinking the same thing for the same reasons.

Sometimes when an ex shows interest again following a break up however, it is only a game. They may see that you love them, and they may simply be trying to get attention, without actually intending to get you back. So, unless your ex really seems genuinely interested in spending time with you, they may just be passing the time because they have no other prospects on the horizon. And worst of all they may see this as away to get revenge for some perceived wrong. This is why it is important not to jump the gun, and why you should focus on reading into the situation before you act on it.

This is common, and a lot of people find themselves wondering "does my ex want to get back with me?", but the truth is, its better to get a feel for the situation before you act. In reality, if your ex does want to get back with you, playing hard to get (in moderation) is the best scenario because it will prevent you from getting hurt if your ex is not really serious about getting back with you.

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A Vampire Short Story Do Not Hasten to Bid Me Adieu by Norman Partridge

Years ago I read a collection of erotic vampire love stories, and this particular one was selected for the anthology. While I would not exactly classify it as erotic, it is certainly a love story in its own rough way. The title is Do Not Hasten to Bid Me Adieu and is written by Norman Partridge.

It is a brief retelling of Stokers Dracula, but this time from the viewpoint of Quincey Morris, one of the suitors of Lucy Westenra. As Stoker told it Lucy had three men who wished to marry her. After careful consideration she chose the English aristocrat Arthur Holmwood. Quincey considers Stokers attempt at telling the story the ravings of a feverish mind. In truth Lucy and Quincey chose each other. They had a love so deep that few mortals would ever be able to understand. As the story begins Quincey, dressed all in black, drives a wagon across the boundless land of his home state of Texas. In the wagon is a large black box that carries his most precious love. He had made a promise to Ms Lucy and now he meant to carry it out.

The story shifts back and forth between the torturous happenings at Whitby, England and the bizarre events that Quincey sets in motion in Morrisville, Texas. At times the incidents from both places intertwine as if Quincey was going through a time of nightmare until, somehow, he sorts his thoughts and comes back to reality. HIs knows his task to be a difficult one, but despite the many obstacles he faces he does not hesitate to carry them out.

As far as I know the most recent publication to carry this story is Women of the Night, edited by Martin Greenberg.

My first encounter was in Love in Vein: Twenty Original Tales of Vampiric Erotica. edited by Poppy Z. Brite. HarperPrism, 1994.

By the way the story title comes from the cowboy song Red River Valley. Some of the lyrics can be found in the story. For instance:

Come sit by my side if you love me,

Do not hasten to bid me adieu,

But remember the Red River Valley,

And the cowboy who loved you so true.

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I Want My Ex Boyfriend To Want Me Back! How To Win Him Back

I want my ex boyfriend to want me back!” this is often said by person feeling alone and jilted. What does it say concerning you if you are still very much interested in your ex boyfriend? It says that you are grown-up enough to know true love once you sense it as well as you have a fixed purpose to not lose it. If you are in this condition at the moment you have possible been faced with so many family members and friends letting you know that loving an ex boyfriend is an extremely terrible thought. Clearly, it is not the situation you would like to find yourself, however youre and youve to make the best of it. That indicates you have to put your shoulder to the wheel, get serious and find how to get him back.

Extreme anxiety is the feeling r?ght n?w ?t th? time you w?nt y?ur ex boyfriend back. To you, th?s i? th? m?st important, ?t th?s time, th?n getting back togeth?r w?th your ?x boyfriend. That is usual howev?r ?t ??n a? w?ll b? harmful. It i? difficult to conceal anxiety p?rticularly if you c?m? ?cr??s your ?x boyfriend frequently. You ma? h?v? decided t? talk to h?m ?t all opportunity you c?n ?s r?gard? the relationship coming to an end. Maybe youve decided t? write a love poem in an effort to g?t h?m back again. You must stop do?ng things l?k? this. Getting y?ur ?x boyfriend t? w?nt ??u back ?ga?n i? all ?bout creating an irresistible n?ed in him.

You h?v? heard th? proverb on the subject ?f th? w?? absence makes th? heart grow fonder. That ?s ?art??ularly r?ght ?fter ? relationship has ended. Giving ??ur ex boyfriend space i? very important. Not onl? ?? ?t g?ing to make h?m miss you h?wev?r ?t? g??ng to a? w?ll give you ? m?r? understandable viewpoint. My advice ?? t? give ??ur ex boyfriend space for about tw? weeks and the drama surrounding it. Give y?urself a break ?nd utilize th?t time to concentrate ?n restoring friendships a? w?ll as g?tt?ng ??urself back int? a strong emotional position.

After a while, call h?m to know how he is doing. Ensure y?u ar? friendly h?wever not pushy. Endeavour n?t t? talk about th? break u? ?n an? way. Rather concentrate on the present and the future. Have a discussion regard?ng th? things y?u ar? do?ng and wh?t i? happening in y?ur life and ??k y?ur ex boyfriend the same.

If y?ur ex boyfriend perceives in y?ur voice that ??u’re thriving as well a? ev?n better after the relationship ended, ?t will feel l?k? ? fast kick to their personality. Nobody want? t? picture th??r ex moving on w?th?ut them that soon. If you c?n kee? ?n this strong and focused path, y?ur ?x boyfriend i? go?ng t? feel weaker ?nd weaker daily. Your ?x boyfriend ?? g??ng to want y?u back simply t? prove to you th?t y?u n??d him th? sam? wa? he needs you. Therefore make your mind up ?nd be th? unwavering ?nd in control person y?u recognize you c?n possibly be.



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Does He Love Me

Does he love me? When you ask yourself this question, it only means one thing. Youve gotten to a point in your relationship that youre certain the guy you like likes you back. But youre not sure if his feelings for you have deepened into love. Hopefully, the tips below can help you find out the real state of your relationship.

Does he love me if he wants us to live together?

Not always, but its a good start. Commitment is a big thing for guys and they dont give up their privacy so easily. If your partner has asked you to live with him, then thats a very strong sign his feelings has gone beyond mere liking. It may not be at the same level as your feelings right now but be patient and it could get there.

Does he love me if he chooses to be with me over his friends?

Most likely! Never underestimate the bond between male friends. It goes very deep even if they dont seem terribly affectionate with each other. While its common for a female to drop a girls night out for a chance to be with her guy, its not the same with boys. A guys only going to do that when he really cares about a girl, and in this case thats you.

Does he love me if he remembers important dates?

Most likely! Guys are notorious for being forgetful about a girlfriends birthday or their anniversary. But in many cases, its really more of a subconscious desire not to think about those dates because it makes everything about the relationship more serious. And sometimes theyre not just ready for that yet.

When a guy does go out of his way to commemorate the event - such as preparing a surprise candlelit dinner to celebrate your first year together - then that means he sees your relationship in a more serious and permanent level. It may not be what youve hoped for, but at least youre getting there. What matters is that your relationship is progressing.

Does he love me if he talks about the future with you in it?

Most likely! Why else would he involve you in his plans for the future if he cant envision himself spending the rest of his life with you? Listen closely to what he talks about the future. Youll be able to glean more clues about his feelings with the way he speaks of your future together. Has he mentioned anything about kids?

A Warning

In the end, of course, theres no better way to know the truth than by asking yourself. Instead of asking does he love me, go to your partner and ask him, do you love me? Sometimes, its the risk that you have to take. Just remember, however, that asking is different from nagging or forcing your partner to commit when hes not ready yet. It doesnt mean he wont ever be able to return your feelings. It only means hes not there yet and if you force his hand too early, this could backfire on you.

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Relationships Sites Good Vs Bad Advice

The Internet is filled with relationships sites that offer advice, tips and articles about good and bad relationships. Some are designed for those who are new in a relationship while others are for those who have had a break up and are now making up and trying to work it out. Can these relationships sites really help you heal your relationship?


If you take the information in them and apply it, it can certainly help. There are certain types of advice that are better than others, obviously. And some relationships sites are designed to get you to buy something, with articles that really don’t even make much sense.

Avoid those sites that are too cutesy to be useful, with quizzes and articles about things like how to trick your partner, how to cheat and not get caught, and things like that. Those aren’t for people in serious relationships, or they’re just for humor.

But sites that offer good advice can be very helpful. Very often there will be message boards and forums where other people reading the same information can interact. Testimonials about how the site helped might be available.

Be sure to take those testimonials with a grain of salt, however. Some relationships sites make them up, or have other people make them up, just to look better or sell you something.

The sites that have been put up by actual relationship experts like those who have written extensively on the subject are usually best. If they counsel people in healing relationships and have some popular books, they’re at least trying to offer useful information.

But there are sites that aren’t put out by experts that can contain gold mines, too. Some might have question and answer pages or even advice columns. It can often be helpful to read about other people’s situations. This lets you see what other people did while seeing if the advice might apply to your situation, too.

Relationships sites that guarantee they can save your relationships or marriage might not be great ones. If you’ve broken up and are now back together, you know how hard it is. And for any site or person to say that your relationship can definitely be saved is deceptive.

Without knowing your particular situation, no one should ever make that promise. And in fact, even with knowing your situation in detail, there’s no guarantee that anything can make absolutely sure that everything will work out all right.

The most any websites or even experts can do is give you the tools to try. You can get advice that will give you the best possible chance of making the relationship work this time. Then it’s up to you to use the information to make it happen.

Sites that have a lot of absolute statements, like how something will make him do a certain thing or think a certain way, aren’t being realistic. Look for relationships sites that admit not everything will work just as planned, as the advice in them will be much more practical.

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I Want My Husband To Love Me Again

"I want my husband to love me again" is one of the most frequently echoed sentiments when it comes to relationship mending. Its becoming more and more common that women are feeling lonely and lost in what they feel are loveless marriages. But they do not want to give up even if it appears that their husband already has. The good news is that there are many ways to fix your marriage, or any long-term relationship, and bring back that love you once shared.

Mending a marriage can be complicated and there are many strategies that you can take to go about this. The results will depend on your individual situation and circumstances, but there are some questions you need to ask yourself. First of all, you obviously feel that your husband doesnt love you anymore or you wouldnt be stating "I want my husband to love me again." But has he told you this? Remember that men and women think and feel differently. There could be a big difference between the way he really feels and what you think he feels. If he has not left you, and he hasnt admitted to not having feelings for you anymore, then he probably does still love you, but there are some other things getting in the way that are confusing him.

One very common reason that husbands seem to stop displaying love to their wives is because the wife shifts her attention from him to the children. This is normal of course and you should put your kids as top priority. But if youve been paying very little to no attention to your husband, he may start to feel unappreciated and he could even feel a little resentment toward the children. While you would hope that is not the case, it is not uncommon, especially if the situation has become a permanent mother-tending-to-her-kids-all-the-time one. In early childhood, this is more understandable, but as children grow up, some of your attention should shift back over to your husband.

If your husband treats you with no admiration or respect, first take a look at how you are treating him. Whether he started this behavior or you did, you need to be the one to change it. Start complimenting him for the things he does do. And avoid badgering him for the things he doesnt. If all goes well, he will start to mirror your actions so just give it time. In the meantime, instead of focusing on him all the time (for better or for worse), try focusing on yourself. Make sure you are taking care of yourself and not just the kids and your husband. The better you feel about yourself, the more attractive you will be to others, including your husband.

Your wish of "I want my husband to love me again" can be granted if you just take that advice into consideration.

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