Serious Questions to Ask Your Boyfriend

When you first get into a relationship, you are simply excited about your new love. You will often avoid many important relationship topics and conversations when you first fall in love with someone. With that being said, there are multiple questions and topics that should be covered by these who are in a more relationship. These are some of the serious questions to ask your boyfriend as you relationship continues to get more serious.

What Do You Think about Kids?

If you find that your relationship is getting more and more serious, you need to start thinking about your future goals. If you are dead-set on having a kid, and your boyfriend is dead-set on not having children, you may have an issue. While it may not be grounds to break up right away, it is something to keep in the back of your mind as you find your relationship to be more serious.

Is This Long Term?

You need to be upfront with your boyfriend about your wants and needs. IF you are looking for a long-term relationship, you need to tell them this. They will then be able to tell you whether or not they are on the same page.

What Are Your Thoughts on Monogamy?

It is important to be on the same page as far as monogamy is concerned. You need to ask this relatively soon. Be clear and firm about your stance on the issue, and make sure that you clearly understand their thoughts on monogamy as well.

Am I a Priority?

Talk to your boyfriend about their priority list. While you should not expect to be first on the list of priorities, you should not be last. Find out where you rank in their life to fully understand how committed they are to you and your relationship.

Do You Love Me?

This simple question may seem pointless, and may not seem serious. This question can actually have a strong purpose. When you ask your boyfriend if they love you, you are reaffirming their feelings. Sometimes, it is simply good to be verbally reassured that they love you and care about you.

Are You Willing to Work for Our Relationship?

Relationships are not easy to maintain. They require work and patience to be successful. You need to talk to your boyfriend about your relationship to understand if they are willing to do the work necessary to maintain a good and healthy relationship.

It is important to space these questions out; do not ask them all at once. While you want to have serious talks, you do not want to bombard your boyfriend with serious questions. IT is also important to keep an understanding tone while talking about these questions. An accusatory tone can ruin your relationship.

You should be asking these questions to understand your boyfriend. You need to think about serious questions to ask your boyfriend to ensure that you are not surprised by something later on in your relationship.

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Unconditional Love and Romantic Love Do Not Mix

Every time someone speaks of unconditional love in the same context with romantic love, it raises the hairs of my neck. These two do not and should not mix. Romantic love is always, and should always be conditional. Unconditional love is reserved for ones children only - even the children cannot and should not love their parents unconditionally, even though the parents hope they would.

Lets back up a bit. Unconditional love is not superior to conditional love, far from it! Conditional love definitely feels better to the person receiving it, because they earned it. From the recipients point of view, unconditional love is cheap. Since it comes to you unconditionally, you dont have to earn it, and what you dont have to earn is cheap. When romantic love is confused with unconditional love, what it means is that since there are no conditions, your lover can just pick up and transfer their unconditional love to anyone else - because there are no conditions. In romantic love, that should never be the case.

The essence of unconditional love is: "No matter what you say, do, think or are I will always love you. You cannot sway my love from you, and it will be forever." Beautiful, isnt it? However, this kind of statement should never be made to anyone but to your own children. Your children cant say that back to you, because there are tons of conditions for their love for you, and there should be, starting from physical or sexual abuse: "If you abuse me, I will not love you." The same goes with romantic love, both ways. "If you cheat on me, I will no longer love you." Or "If you beat me up, I will stop loving you and start fearing you." To even get to the position of lovers, there are countless of conditions to pass: "I will love you if I find you sexually attractive." "I will love you if you laugh at my jokes." You get the basic idea. When romantic love turns unconditional, it is half way to an abusive relationship. "I no longer care if you talk to me without respect, if you hit me every time you see me or cheat on me; I will still remain strong in my love for you. You can treat me as badly as you can, and my love wont sway from you."

Romantic love, even though it has conditions, can and will forgive flaws. You may be well aware of your spouses annoying habits, but because he or she fills up your conditions for your love, you wont care that much. And since you know that there are conditions for his or her love for you, you will remain respectful, loving and caring; because you know he or she can just pick up and leave if you fail to meet their conditions. When we start expecting unconditional love from our spouses, that is when we start giving ourselves permissions to talk to them without respect, nag, treat them like children or inferior, and that is not a good way to go about a relationship, dont you agree?

If a lover of mine would tell me he loves me unconditionally, I would not like it one bit. Not one single bit. That would mean that whatever I was, whatever my personality was like, whatever I treated him like, wouldnt matter. Somehow he picked me as his girlfriend, and now he loves me unconditionally - without a reason. As lovers, dont we often ask our lovers the question: "Why do you love me?" And the answers are so sweet to hear. We want to hear our lover has reasons for loving us - unconditional love doesnt have such reasons. If it was a question of unconditional love, the answer would simply be: "Because youre my girlfriend." Although "because I am your mother" is a good answer, "because youre my girlfriend" is a horrible answer, dont you agree?

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Understanding Women Answering Five Common Questions Men Ask

Have you noticed that as soon as you think youve got her figured out she does something that puts you right back to square one?

No matter how hard men try or what clever strategies men use, at the end of the day the fairer sex remains an elusive mystery.

Although impossible to truly understand a woman, the rewards of being able to navigate her world are certainly worth the effort.

Based on interviews, here are 5 common questions men asked followed by brief explanations of whats going on in her world in each case.

1) "What is she thinking?" - You ask this question when she does something that doesnt make sense to you.

Example: Shes due at a wedding party in four hours and needs shoes to match her dress. Yesterday, she commented on a pair she saw in the shoe store just around the corner saying they would be perfect for the party. Rather than go there for the shoes, she insists on driving to the busy mall that is forty minutes away.

You need to know that you cant judge her logic by yours. If shes doing something that doesnt make sense to you, be open to the strong probability that she has different goals in mind.

2) "Why does she want so much attention?" - You ask this question when she occurs as being needy.

Example: She gets upset and says, "You never tell me you love me." and you dont know what shes talking about because you just told her you loved her a couple of days ago.

You need to know that for women attention is a measure they use to judge their own worth and attractiveness. This is ongoing for women and will be satisfied until the next time she wants your attention. Its not really personal to her, its how shes hard wired.

3) "Why is she always changing her mind?" - You ask this question when you are in the middle of doing something for her and she decides she wants something else.

Example: She told you she wanted French Cuisine on your Saturday evening dinner date and right after you made the reservations she told you shed rather have Thai.

You need to know that a woman has a much more complicated relationship to her desires than you do. When it comes to what she wants her priorities can change very quickly. It helps to maintain a measure of flexibility whenever you can because if you get upset every time she changes her mind shell begin to pull back and wont trust you.

4) "Why does she get so jealous when I look at other women?" - You ask this question when you feel like shes controlling, censoring or watching you like a hawk.

Example: You and her are sitting outside the ice-cream parlor and a beautiful woman walks by. You watch her from the front approaching and from behind after she passes you. Your girlfriend/wife calls you a pig and wants to know why you are looking at younger women.

She doesnt realize that most of the time this is an automatic response for you, something you dont consciously choose to do and you dont have as much control as she thinks.

You need to know that its just as natural for a woman to doubt her own attractiveness and when she sees you looking at another woman this doubt is automatically triggered. It really has nothing to do with you OR the other woman. Rather than be defensive you can diffuse her emotions by reassuring and reminding her that its her that youve chosen - its her that youre with.

5) "Why is she so dramatic?" - You ask this question just as you thought everything was going smoothly when all hell seems to break loose over there with her.

Example: Youre girlfriend/wife has a very animated conversation with her girlfriend about her most recent break-up. She spends several hours on the telephone talking about the same thing all the while getting more upset. Her emotional response seems out of proportion to the circumstance.

You need to know that women often use their reactions to create motion for themselves. Women love movement - it adds variety and entertainment to their lives. Rather she does this sort of thing with her girlfriend than pick a fight with you because she is bored.

Jason and my purpose in business is to share with men and women principles of natural relating that will not only transform your relationship, but will saturate it with purpose, power and passion. It all starts by appreciating him and cherishing her.

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Relationship Breakup Dont Be Blindsided

Relationship breakup, what are the signs? Are you worried that your relationship is getting ready to crash and burn? Not sure what signs you should be on the lookout for? No one likes to be blindsided. Being blindsided always results in pain whether physical or emotional. Even if your relationship ends, the pain will be a little less if you can see it coming and brace for impact. There are some signs that all may not be well on the home front, if you keep your eyes open.

The first thing you need to remember is that we are usually pretty good at lying to ourselves. We are remarkably adept at keeping the blinders firmly in place if removing them would be to face certain pain. In the long run though you only do more harm than good by ignoring the inevitable. Its best to see things clearly, if you do you may actually have a chance to change the direction your relationship is taking and prevent the breakup.

Here are some signs that you need to keep an eye out for:

1. If you and your partner used to be joined at the hip but all of a sudden they seem to have a lot of more important things to do, you may be headed for a breakup. Of course, dont be a twit and ignore the fact that they just got a promotion and theyre a lot busier at work. If they dont have a reasonable excuse for their sudden absence you may want to sit them down and have a talk with them to try and figure out what is going on.

Make sure that you ask them what the problem is and not accuse them of anything. If you accuse them of something and they are just feeling a little down or overwhelmed you may just give them cause to end the relationship. Be careful to not come off defensively. Stay calm and rational when you talk to them.

2. Does your better half suddenly seem to need a lot of privacy? If their habits change and they become much more private it could be a sign that they are talking to someone and they dont want you to know. If they are suddenly leaving the room to talk on their cell phone, or they are taking their laptop into the other room, you may want to ask them, nicely, whats going on. If they say nothing that might well be your answer since its obvious that their behavior has changed and if they dont have a good reason why it could be that there isnt a good reason. Again, though, give them the benefit of the doubt. Youd look awfully stupid if you accused them of something when all they were doing was planning a great anniversary trip or surprise birthday party.

3. Sex, do you still have it as often as you once did? Is there a change in who initiates it? If your partner used to always want sex and suddenly they just dont seem interested, it could be a sign that they have found someone else. Of course, it could also be a sign that theyre tired, overwhelmed, depressed, etc. Dont jump to conclusions, just ask.

Many times the signs of a relationship breakup are pretty easy to spot, as long as youre not so afraid to see them that you ignore them. By spotting them early youve got a much better shot at dealing with whatever the issues are before the actual breakup. You might just be able to save your relationship by keeping your eyes wide open.

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The DILEMMA !!

SO DO I WALK AWAY OR DO I TRY HARDER ???

Ahh , The Big question thats haunting everyone since the dawn of time , Should i Try harder for that one thing that i have always wanted or do i Walk away, and save myself further pain and misery ?.

The Answer to this is really simple , But first we have to Address Both the WALKING AWAY and TRYING HARDER states of the dilemma. 

People feel like WALKING AWAY on a desire because its not been fulfilled for a long time . But its been on your mind every waking moment of your existence , and with every passing moment you feel like , that things are not getting better or you are no where near to achieving you desire. But you have persisted for so long , because all you wanted was this one thing to be done and then you thought you will be happy. But right now in this moment when you think about that "DESIRE" thats not coming to you , it causes pain , sometimes you have endured that pain for so long that you become numb to it , and it only hurts when Things get worst , for others its like that nagging song that you dont like but its stuck in your head and it plays 24 x 7. So yes , the prospect of "WALKING AWAY" does give you the feeling of momentary relief. but as soon as you start thinking about a world without your "Desire" you start to feel empty and the process starts over again , its one of the reasons why "Walking Away" is so hard. 

Now , Walking Away doesnt always mean giving up or losing. You can always walk away with the intent of finding something better. And be it your current desire or a desire for a better alternative , the universe will cater to every thing.

Now lets talk about "TRYING HARDER" ! I mean WTF !! cant you just say "TRYING" , why in the world did you have to attach a degree of "HARDER" with it ??  Now you will say , "if it was not hard to achieve my desire then i would have it already and i wouldnt be reading  your blog . " Well it just seems hard , because of all the evidence of failure that our stupid little mind has accumulated for so long. Dont pay attention to the Mind !! Our Mind Thinks that it knows everything there is to know. And it fails to acknowledge any new thing without evidence , and even after getting evidence , it wants further evidence , thus the feeling of uncertainty that a young man feels when the girl of his dreams , who he thinks is out of his league , responds positively to his advances. 

I say That The "TRYING" isnt "HARD" , its not even "TRYING" once you get the hang of #LOA . We all know that we live in a vibrational world , and That the Universe is listening to our every thought and Responding to our every emotion.

This limiting Evidence that you always bump into , is your creation only , its a result of your Doubt and fear filled vibration (screwed up vibration). Just  acknowledge the fact that its all in the past , it has no effect on you. Just acknowledge it and LET GO. 

Now whatever maybe your "desire" , if you focus on it achievement completely and feel the way you would feel when you will have your desire , the universe will respond to your vibration and Deliver you your desire , and that to almost instantly. But what happens is that when we do try to feel like we would when we will have our desire , the above mentioned , evidence pops up, and we being creatures of habits feel bad and decide that these obstacles are real. They are not real , they are just your external manifestations of our metal limitations. Remove them , and you will have your desire the next day. 

So In the end its a choice , But this choice between Walking Away" or  "Persevering" Should not be made From a place of LOSS , ie; Dont Pick up the "Walk Away" option because the other option is impossible for you or you are tired or fed up..because then its hardly a choice .  Same way dont pick up the "Trying" option because for some reason you think that you cant walk away now , or you are out of time or late. 

Know that both options are possible and feasible and Most importantly EASY, and which one ever you choose , at the end of it you will be happy .

The Universe is on your side , and is responding to your emotions and getting you exactly what you are asking for . So ask for the things you want , if its something you have wanted for a long time then , let go of the fact that its not possible to achieve , coz its really easy to achieve once you let go of the evidence.

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