What Unconditional Love Really Means

While talking about unconditional love, one might think of a relationship between a mother and her child. That is a love without contingencies. In fact, by its very nature true love is unconditional. Love is patient and kind. It doesnt anger easily and keeps no record of wrongs. A mothers love always protects, trusts, hopes, and perseveres. It is not selfish or jealous. Unfortunately many people believe that a mothers love is the only unconditional love we can find on this planet. But let me tell you that I have experienced it with people other than my mother and once you have youll never settle for anything less.

Too many people confuse love with duty and have difficulties differentiating between them. They base their love for another person on how that person makes them feel. If the person stops making them feel good, or stops doing the things that make them feel good they stop loving the person and may even begin to recent or hate that person. Imagine a mother who stops loving her child because the child wont do chores. That would be a conditional love. She would be saying I love you as long as you keep your room clean, if you dont Ill stop loving you and maybe even hate you. This may sound silly but what chores or expectations do we place on our spouses or do they place on us? If not completed faithfully, is the love in the relationship questioned? What about the example of "Ill only love you as long as you love me back". Why would I stop loving you just because you dont love me? Isnt that selfish? To be clear, unconditional love is not comprised of any duties or contingent on what one person does for another.

Love is universal. It is not bounded to culture or region; it has a culture in itself. Loving someone is a gamble, people change in what seems like the blink of an eye. But real love is reflected from your steadfastness is the changing times. This is what makes love unconditional. In love you do not have to demand anything from your partner. Devotion is the only meaning of unconditional love.

Sometimes you may feel your partner is ignoring you for no reason, it really hurts but you have to bear it wholeheartedly. Maybe your lover is having some problems they dont want to share out of fear that you might get upset by hearing about them. This usually creates misunderstanding which can ruin the relationship from the roots. In such circumstances, the intensity of pure and unconditional love is tested. If you truly love your partner unconditionally it will be easier to stay firm. Youll be willing to take the time to seek out relationship advice from friends and websites like RelationshipAdvice911.com which let you ask questions and get other peoples opinions privately.

Some people get upset and lose hope on issues like love, relationships, dating and romance. They think they are simply unlucky in love if their love life is not going the way they want. What I feel about this is that ultimately finding unconditional love depends on how much you give. An unconditional love does not need to find its true lover rather, pure love makes its way on its own and unless you are paying attention you may not even recognize it when it comes your way.

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Relationships What Makes Them Work

In our line of work we come across people all the time who are unhappy in their relationships and think the grass is greener on the other side of the fence. Lets debunk the myth of happily ever after being easy and look at what it takes to make a relationship work.

The number one priority in your life needs to be You. If you dont do the work on yourself, you carry, into all your relationships, the baggage from the past; whether that be a difficult relationship with a parent or pure lack of self esteem.

Most of us get into relationships with people who represent whatever we havent sorted with our parents. Do this exercise: Write out all the adjectives you can think of about your parents and then tick the ones that fit your partner you will be amazed at the similarities. I had been married 16 years before I discovered I had actually married my mother, with whom I had a difficult relationship! How is that possible? Because we draw into our life the people with whom we have the greatest opportunity to learn from, to free ourselves of our patterns. rebirthing has a saying: Love brings up anything unlike itself for the purpose of healing. That means we create that which is NOT love in order to fully comprehend who we really are.

When we finally take off the rose-coloured glasses and see the truth, we see patterns in our partner that were prevalent when we were growing up. The first people we need to heal with are our parents and once the hooks are gone from there, we can then create relationships we deserve. People are our mirrors so if we meet someone who is strong and silent (just like our dad/mum was... from whom we needed to know we were loved), so we "fall in love" with this aspect we are attempting to heal from. Of course, when we take off the glasses, we realize this person is not giving us what we want and then we start nagging (women- speak) or niggling (man-speak). "You never talk to me/want to make love with me/help me with the dishes/come to the races with me." What we are really saying is: You dont show me you love me, neither did my parent. Has the person changed? No, they are the same person you fell in love with but you have changed and you want more.

Unfortunately this person in your life is your creation, there to show you what you need to learn. When you "get it", guess what, they change and if they dont, you are smart enough to know when to go. We meet tons of people from backgrounds of abuse...physically, emotionally, mentally or sexually and they stay in relationships that are the same as they grew up with because they think they can change the other person. "For things to change, first I must change" (from the seminar Money & You) is a powerful statement. We have to understand what we deserve and what we are willing to have and then we need to look honestly at what we have created and find a way to bridge the gap.

When you get to the place where life reflects your dreams, your relationships will be so much easier but they still need to be worked on everyday! Many people want one, get one, put it on the shelf, never do anything with it and eventually it becomes thick with dust and disintegrates. Relationships are precious and they need energy put into them every single day. They are the way we learn the truth about ourselves, the way we find the courage to speak the truth.

Read The 5 Love Languages, find out what your partners love language is and make sure you fill their love tank every day. If it is Touch, walk holding hands even if its not your preference... If it is Acknowledgment, give them acknowledgments about the small things that we often take for granted; if it is Time make sure you spend some quality time with them every day. Maybe the love language is Acts of Service so do something you dont normally do, wash his car, iron her clothes! Gifts is another language, generally not a diamond ring or a Ferrari, but a rose by the bed, a bottle of his favourite wine in the bath!

In the end relationships require more work than anything else you can ever take on. The end result is true communication, intimacy and love that doesnt run away at the first hint of trouble.

When you relationship works, you can become a role model for others and then we can create communities that world and a world that works.

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How Get Your Ex Back What To Do When Shes Dumped You

How Get Your Ex Back What To Do When Shes Dumped You

How get ??ur ex back? This ?s th? lament ?f ?v?r? guy who h?? ever been dumped. Did ??u know that in three quarters of break ups, it ?? the girl wh? calls th? wh?l? thing off? Guys generally want t? stay together with th??r girlfriends. This article ?s ?b?ut how t? get ?x back.



First of all, ??u h?v? to determine wh?ther she did you a favor by dumping you. Too often, guys stick with girls out of inertia. It ?? easier to stay in ?n ?k?? relationship th?n go ?ut and look f?r ? r?ally good one. If ?ou d?nt feel th?t the girl who dumped ?ou w?? ??ur soul mate, ??n??der that h?r calling things ?ff m?ght be a blessing in disguise.

If th?s ?? not the case and ??u ?till want get ??ur ?x back, read on.

The next step ?? to determine wh?ther ?he loves you. Girls ??n be fickle. They ?re mu?h m?r? l?kely t? act impulsively and th?n have regrets ?b?ut what th?? did. If ?ou th?nk she still loves you, ??u h?v? a good chance at ho get your ex back.

In th?? case, ??u have t? make her ??m? t? you. Many guys call th??r ex’s numerous times, send hundreds of texts, and exhibit other ?u?h stalkerish behavior. This ?u?t pushes th??r girlfriends away.

Instead, seem like ??u ar? accepting of the break up. Move on. Date oth?r girls – ?s?e???lly girls in her circle. By making h?r c?me back to ?ou inst??d ?f th? other wa? around, ??u w?ll g? ?bout how get your ?x back.

During thi? time, you should analyze wh?th?r ?ou h?v? changed from the m?ny ?h? f?rst fell in love with. Often, guys try t? impress girls u? front. But, on?e th?? h?ve slipped ?nt? a comfortable relationship with th??r girlfriend, th?y slag off. For instance, ?re you ?till working ?ut ?? often a? ??u did? Toward the end, w?re ??u st?ll opening h?r car door, buying h?r flowers, ?nd generally romancing her th? wa? you did ?t the beginning of th? relationship? These things can make ? big difference in h?w g?t y?ur ?x back.

When ?ou do se? y?ur ?x girlfriend, subtly remind h?r ?f ??ur common bonds. If you ?r? going t? g? t? ? party wh?re ??u kn?w she’s go?ng t? be, wear ? shirt she gave you. If ?he h?? a favorite cologne, wear it. And, when ??u talk, bring u? th? positive things ?n your past. Don’t beat h?r ?v?r th? head with them, but make h?r nostalgic ab?ut y?ur common history.

Invite her t? non-committal type of events. If a group of friends ar? go?ng to the beach, ask her t? c?me along. Begin se??ng h?r in social settings once again. When ?he c?me? along, pay some attention t? her, but spend ??ur time with your friends ?nd other girls too. When ?h? sees that you are an attractive catch, y?u’v? alread? won half th? battle ?f how g?t ?our ?x back.

So, th?t i? h?w g?t ??ur ex back.

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Dont Let Anyone Make You Feel Guilty

Have you heard statements like "If you love me, you would do this for me." "You should be ashamed of yourself." Or "You hurt my feelings?" Statements like these are used by people to manipulate you into feeling guilty because you did a mistake, disappointed someone, or if some one wants a favor of you.

Dont let someone make you feel guilty. Guilt is a destructive emotion that you waste your time with it if you dont learn how to eliminate guilt for ever. To overcome and eliminate guilt from your life, do the following steps:

1. Know that the past cant be changed. Whatever happened or you have done in the past, you cant undo it or change it by feeling guilty. If you cry, weep, shout mornings and nights, you will not make the past different. It is better to concentrate on the present time and do something useful to enhance and improve your life and your future.

2. Try to learn from your experiences. If you hurt someone while not meaning it, apologize for what you have said or done and then forgive yourself. Learn from what happened in the past, so you wont repeat it again, but it is important to forgive yourself.

3. Let the people you deal with know that you cant be manipulated by what they say and cant make you feel guilty. If your boss gives you a hard time because you didnt work over time and start saying that there is no bonus for you to make you feel guilty, then you can say things like "that is perfectly fine. I will get the bonus next time." Once people see that you are confident of yourself and cant get manipulated by them into feeling guilty, they will know you are in control of your emotions.

To overcome guilt, you have to confront it. Dont deny guilt or run away from it. Analyze it and make amends with it. No matter how much time you spend feeling guilty, you are not going to be able to change it because it has already happened. You can learn from the past, but you cant change it.

Instead of feeling guilty over something that cant be changed, why dont you follow the above steps and then start concentrating on your goals?

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DEBT AND LAW OF ATTRACTION !

First off all , lets not argue about "but from where the money will come ?" , its none of your business ! , its the universes business , so you just sit pretty while the universe finds a way to come up with the Money .For my more skeptical friends , Please relax and let the universe show you , "How the money is going to come. "

Now that being said , we can move on to the topic at hand , that is DEBT ! 

Being is Debt is bad , being constantly chased by creditors is annoying and at the same time takes toll over our self esteem and image.  

Many of us have at some point in our life have found ourselves in debt , we owe money , and we dont have enough to pay back . And believe me , i know , this feeling sucks , especially if you are not an habitual defaulter.

Many people ask me about law of attraction and Money , can LOA be used to manifest money , can it help them to clear off their debts ?

The Answer is Yes ! it can ! But , like any application of LOA , it can be really easy or really difficult to implement , depends on your current mindset. 

Now look at "Settlement of Debt" as a need , so when applying LOA on this matter , we calculate the amount of money we need to settle the debt and ask the universe to deliver through visualization , imagination , listing out things to be thankful for and stuff , if these work for you , then just close this page , because you are An LOA Master and you dont need to be here , go enjoy your money , but if these dont work , read on.

The universe manifests the essence of your desires by picking up on your emotions and feelings. So sometimes concentrating on an "BIG Amount of money to pay off your debt , when there is no obvious source of income in sight , can be a little difficult , it can also , evoke Negative emotions of doubt and uncertainty. 

SO whats the alternative ?

Its. simple , we take the money factor out of the manifestation. Just listen to me for a second ,before lighting the torches and picking up your pitchforks .  Its simple , 

"The manifestation we are aiming for is Debt settlement not manifesting Money ! "

Let me explain with an example ....

Meet Steve , Steve has lost his job due to something inevitable. And now with no monthly income to support him , Steve is facing a Huge Credit card Outstanding , lets say USD 30000 ! Maybe he bought a Train for all i care , but the truth is he is in debt , and he has no way of paying it off in the future . Now he can declare bankruptcy and get the credit card people off his back , but lets be honest , declaring Bankruptcy isnt cheap . that will be the last nail in the coffin. 

What Steve needs to do is to address the elephant in the room , or better , imagine the room without the elephant ! 

The need here is to settle the debt , and the only logical solution Steves brain is giving him is "Get some Money" But with the bad market and all (again a belief of Steves Brain) it seems impossible at the moment. So what does he do ? He leaves it to the universe. 

What Steves Brain doesnt understand is that the HOW of this manifestation will be taken care off by the universe , who has access to all the 3600 Thousand Trillion Dollars on the earth , And Steves Debt is a measly 0.0000000000000001 % of that wealth. So all Steve has to do now is concentrate on the feeling he is going to feel while he is repaying the Debt. 

So, Steve sits Down , and He relaxes , He Takes deep breaths and he remembers the fact that he is the creator of his own experience in this reality  . And he Asks himself ....

              "How will i feel , when this debt is paid ? " 

What does this debt settlement stand for , the answer is simple , RELAXATION  ! Steve will be able to finally relax once the debt is paid . and through that Relaxation will come Happiness. 

Knowing this Steve now , imagines that he is paying his debt off, he is writing a cheque , and he is handing it over to the people he owes money , or he is Transferring funds from his account and paying off all his debt , and while doing so , a feeling of relaxation is sweeping over him. Now he is no longer under debt , and great burden is off his shoulders and he is feeling free and light and  mildly elated. He keeps feeling these feelings , looses track of time , drifts off to sleep.
 

Next Morning he wakes up , freshens up , sits down with a pen and paper , Writes down ....

"Thank you universe for such an amazing resolution , i feel so free and light , now that i have cleared off all my debts . And the best part , there is money left with me after , to help me start over again. Thank you universe for taking care of me ! " 

He spends the day without a care in the world and in the evening , receives a text that his account has been debited with 60000 USD . 

So folks what did we learn ?

1. Its the feelings that matter. SO find a way to feel "That way". 

2. You manifestation aint in the future , its now , when asking for a desire , act as if you have it "NOW"

3. The universe is Generous , it will give you more than you could have ever imagined or expected. 

4. Its possible for you to feel "That way" without an actual manifestation. 

5. Goal setting is good , but Dont be stuck on a date , Maybe the universe wants to deliver it ahead of time. 

6. When ever you are imagining or visualizing , Do it in the Present tense , do it as if you have everything now. Your imagination is your happy place , you are not bound by physical limitations , so go Nuts ! 

 
pS. This Example was based of a real experience of one of the readers. :)

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What Make Filipino Women The Best Asian Women Today

What Make Filipino Women The Best Asian Women Today

Filipino women h?v? m?n? good traits that make th?m the best Asian women on the world today. Most ?f Philippines girls w?ll fall ?n love with men who ?r? caring, thoughtful, loyal, responsible, ?nd honest. They pay close attention to the culture and natural traits. One of the key reasons th?t Filipino girls are popular in Asia b???u?? of their natural beauty. People ?n Philippines are u?u?ll? mixed w?th Chinese ?nd Spanish so th?? l??k ?u?t wonderful. Thousands of men wh? married t? Filipino wives admitted that Philippines women h?v? the best characteristics that cannot b? found ?n ?th?r Asian girls. There are thousands ?f Filipino-Western guys ??m? back to th??r original country t? get married w?th th??? girls and bring th?m back to th? West to live. What these men want t? find is the traditional traits that th??? women ?n Philippines carry.

Filipino women h?v? th? stunning beauty and extraordinary traits. From the femininity ?nd disposition, they ?lw?ys stand out in a crowd be?au?e th?? ?r? considered the best ?n?? in Asia. Most ?f women ?n Philippines are caring and responsible. They respect th??r parents ?nd th? elders. A Filipino woman considers marriage as a life time commitment. She supports her family ?nd takes good care of h?r children. She i? patient ?n listening and understanding. Especially, she w?ll stay ?n her husband’s side n? matter what. Filipino girls hav? been trained and taught sin?e the young age. They talk and speak politely w?th ?v?r? body. With ? soft ?nd sweet voice, a Filipina girl ?s th? model wife f?r men. No matter what ?ou do, sh? stays and supports you.

You rarely ?e? ? divorce ?n Philippines. Women ?n Philippine tr? t? work ?ut their marriage ?nd n?v?r think ?f divorce a? a solution in family relationship. A marriage ?? a commitment ?n life ?? most Filipino women tr? to work things out, inst?ad ?f g?tting divorced. They ?an sacrifice th?mselv?? f?r th?ir husbands ?nd children. In terms ?f housewife, th?r? i? no comparative. They are proud t? b? excellent housewives. A Filipino girl ??n cook daily meals while h?r husband watches TV. This ?s true. However, ?h? ?s not a slave. The reason she cooks daily meals for h?r husband and children b??aus? sh? thinks she ?s supposed to d? so. Even though m??t women in Philippines ?re v?ry well educated, professional in career, th?? ?t?ll cook daily meals for th?ir family ?nd children.

Filipino women are religious. More than 80% ?f Filipinas ?re Roman Catholic. Most of people ?n Philippines h?ve b??n raised ?n th? church. In terms ?f choosing the life mate, Filipino girls choose the man who ?? caring, responsible, ?nd respectful. Money ?? not the m??t important aspect of ? loving marriage. Most women ?n Philippines put th? stability of th??r relationship ?r marriage, money ??m?s after that. They d?n’t l?k? th? w?y that divorce takes place ?n th??r life. During hard times, th?? w?ll stand by th??r husbands to work things out.

Most Filipino ladies prefer t? get married with men who ?r? older than them, like 10 or 15 years. They prefer older men t? b? husbands becaus? th?? l?k? matured ?nd financially stable men. A Filipino lady likes t? meet a Filipino husband who lives ?n the West, including USA, Canada, Australia, UK ?? ?he has m?r? opportunities t? work and h?r children h?? b?tter future.

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Get Your Partner To Agree To Relationship Counseling

Relationship counseling is often a last resort for couples on the brink of the divorce. But some couples try counseling early on when the first problems rear their heads. Counseling is certainly something that a couple shouldn’t be afraid to try, even if the problems are relatively minor. Often, catching small problems early with counseling can prevent bigger problems down the road. Early counseling can even something prevent a future divorce.

Today’s couples seem more eager to try to new things, which makes counseling a good option. Couples married years ago seem less likely to go for counseling or try new approaches, perhaps because it wasn’t something commonly done when they were younger. Very often marriages of 30 or 40 years now end in divorce, which is a shame because they’ll never know if relationship counseling could have helped save the marriage.




If you feel like you need relationship counseling, be sure to as your partner to go to counseling with you in a non-judgmental way. If you ask him or her to go to counseling in such a way as it seems like you are accusing them of being the problem and needing counseling, you’re likely to encounter resistance to the idea. Try to make it clear that you want the counseling for yourself if nothing else.

If you ask your partner to go to counseling because you have some issues you need to work on, they’re more likely to view the idea favorably. Explain that you think you need some help to be able to contribute more to the relationship, and to learn how to be a better partner or spouse. Don’t accuse the other person of need counseling. Even if you believe that they are most of the problem, don’t say so. Once you’re in relationship counseling, they will learn tips and techniques for being better within the relationship, just as you will.

Don’t be afraid to suggest relationship counseling, whether you’ve been in the relationship for 3 months, 3 years or two decades. It’s never too late to try counseling to resolve problems. And it’s never too late to try to keep small problems from becoming big ones. If the relationship is relatively new, you might think that you’re admitting to problems and admitting that the relationship is rocky by suggesting counseling. But that’s not true. But facing any obstacles now, you’re making the relationship stronger in the long run.

If your partner believes that your suggestion of relationship counseling means that the relationship isn’t perfect, and maybe even is doomed, calmly explain that that isn’t true. Just because you’re willing to admit that everything is perfect shows that you’re willing to make necessary changes to keep the other person and yourself happy.

If your partner refuses, go on your own. While the counseling would work best if both of you go, you can go and work on things to improve yourself. If your partner sees you going to relationship counseling, they’re more likely to give it a try.

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When Your Teenage Son is Disrespectful What to Do

If you are wondering what to do when your teenage son is disrespectful, I think I can help you. My teenage son disrespected me for years and eventually I had enough and learned some timeless parenting principles and me son thanks me to this day even though he is a fully grown man. Here are some of my top tips for people who wonder what to do when your teenage son is disrespectful.

Concentrate on praising him - Make sure you keep on praising your son all the time. Just like most humans he wants to feel praised and feel he is wanted and loved. when you see him do something good, do not be scared that it makes you weak. It is a real sign of strength to be able to unselfishly praise someone else.

Keep punishments and rewards consistent - What most parents do is get to the point where they have had it with their teenager and they decide to punish them. They say "every time you swear, youre going to your room". Next time they swear, they either forget or cannot be bothered. Be consistent or your teenagers behaviour will not be either.

Also apply this with rewards just the same way. Let the child know that if they do what you ask of them they will definitely be rewarded with something that they enjoy and follow through every time. Consistent action equals consistent results. Simple, right?

Look through the words - when your teenage son is disrespectful to you, what does this mean? What comes out of his mouth is not likely what he actually means. He is probably saying to you "love me, listen to me" but cannot say that because it sounds silly. Get good at seeing what they mean underneath and actin on that rather than just listening to the content of the words themselves.

"I bet youre searching the internet looking for the best methods to handle your out of control teen for free and I totally understand that. I was in your position and all the information seemed too much and information conflicted and it was pretty annoying at the time.

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What You Must Do to Get Your Ex Back

It’s no fun being alone for the holidays. In all honesty being alone after the holidays is no great shakes either. This weighs particularly heavy if you have just recently broken up with your ex.

You d?n’t need them ?s ?ome kind ?f crutch t? get through th?s time ?f year. That’s wh?re friends ?nd family com? in a? well ?s th? belief in yourself. You want y?ur ?x back becau?e they were special ?nd th? relationship th? tw? ?f y?u shared was as good ?s ?t gets. This is n?t ?bout rekindling the romance but m?re like continuing the journey together.

Therefore g?tting ?our ?x back i? g?ing t? require y?u t? take th? follow?ng steps:

1. Time

Yes you pr?babl? would love t? h?ve them back this holiday season. But ?n ?ll likelihood th?t ?s not g?ing t? happen ?nd th? worst thing y?u ?an d? ?s force th? issue. You and ?our ex both need time to heal ?s well ?s time t? g?t ov?r ?ach oth?r (that’s right) b?fore you start down the path of tr?ing to reconcile. How long? There ?s n? set time but ? month or m?re is ? good start.

2. Keep and Build Your Power

When you ?re constantly begging your ex t? t?ke ??u back ?ou ?re in effect handing over ??ur power. That power ?s ?om?th?ng w? ?ll have inside of u? whether people choose t? recognize it or not. Hold ?n to ?t and d? ever?thing p?s??ble t? cultivate it.

How? For one, stop focusing on y?ur??lf ?nd l??k t? h?l? ?ther people. It do??nt mean you h?ve t? volunteer t? work in ? soup kitchen ?lth?ugh that would not hurt. Instead you ?an be ? genuine friend t? ?our friends. Focus on them. The ?ame g?es with family. Become ?n active participant ?n making th?ir holidays ?? good ?s you can. Removing the focus ?ff ??lf can do ? world of good f?r you mentally ?nd emotionally.

3. Season’s Greetings

Send ?our ex a nice little card. Nothing mushy ?r pleading. Avoid messages th?t make ?t ?e?m l?k? you ?re sending ?n urgent dispatch from th? front line. Try to th?nk ?f them ?s a friend ?nd compose the message in the sam? manner. Don’t b? afraid to add ? l?ttle humor to th? mix. And k?ep ?t short. No matter h?w nonchalant ?ou attempt to make it, if you get long winded ?our ex w?ll ?robabl? ?ee right through the card ?nd you.

Discover The Step-By-Step Secrets To Getting Back Together With Your Loved One. Win Back Love Article written by Daryl Campbell ?f The Relationship Tip.



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Find Your Pace

Like everything else, practice of LOA or learning how to leverage the Universe in a way that serves you the best, also has a learning curve. You read (a lot) when you first come across it, discover a lot of techniques (visualisation, pretend games, vision board, gratitude journal etc) and then at times out of desperation, you try to apply them all at once in order to achieve what you’re longing for. I know. There is no judgement here. I’ve done the same thing. And I also firmly believe that everyone does the best they know how.

But in my long journey of hits and trials and errors, I’ve learned some very important lessons which came to me mostly in the form of epiphanies and have made living the life of my making so much easier. Here, I’ll be share one of them, which is also probably the most crucial of all. One that I wish someone had told me back when I came to know about all this LOA and Universe stuff. 

Find Your Own Pace. 

I can’t stress enough how important this is for your mental and spiritual well-being, and also for manifesting your desires. It also prevents LOA backfires (will talk about it in a separate post). 

The lesson is very simple. Don’t rush yourself into anything. Sure, it feels as if you have to go out and give it your best shot by forcing yourself into doing every LOA exercise that you come across in order to manifest something that you want in no time. But most of the time, this happens when there is desperation for something. And desperation is definitely not good news. When we force ourselves, especially our souls to do something or feel something that is not really where our current vibration is, it causes massive discomfort. Whatever you decide to do, whatever path you decide to follow, you want to follow from a place of happiness. It only works that way. 

Couple of years back, when I was still a newbie, I came across this book called Clear your Clutter with Feng Shui (I recommend this book to anyone who currently feels stuck and wants to start afresh) and predictably launched myself into dumping my stuff, taking it to extremes, to put it mildly. I was desperate for change and thought that I just have to follow what the book says, and maybe I’ll have what I want. It resulted in confronting with buried feelings and issues at a pace I was not ready for at that time. It was overwhelming, and kind of threw me out of alignment for a while. 

Now I understand, that whatever we create, even a messed up situation, we create for a reason. The reason is best known to our higher self. It could be to bring to surface unresolved issues, or to have a life experience that our higher-self decided to have before coming to this world. And if we ever decide to change it in this life, we need to do this in agreement with our souls. That is why now I make it a point to first check with myself before plunging into a new course of action, whether or not it resonates with me. 

That said, I’m not saying that if you are currently in an unhappy situation, you are doomed to stay there forever, just because you can’t force yourself to feel happy. You can obviously work up your vibration slowly and harmoniously. You just need to take care that whatever you are doing is resonating with your higher self. It talks to you, you know. It will tell you when to go ahead with something full throttle, and when to hold back and test the waters. You just have to learn to listen to it. One sure shot way is Meditation (You can force yourself a little to meditate regularly, by the way =)) Learn more about Meditation here.

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Internet Dating Tips How to Write a Killer Online Dating Profile

Let me ask you...

Are You Frustrated with online dating?

If youre like most guys, you are. Youre tired of not meeting ATTRACTIVE women from online dating sites.

I mean, who wants to pay $30 a month with no results? Right?

Believe me, I know how frustrating it can be... Ive been there and I struggled with it for years. I thought I would NEVER be able to meet the woman of my dreams online.

When I first started online dating, women were ignoring ALL my profiles and emails. In fact, I would often send out 10 to 20 emails A DAY and get NO responses. It was crazy! And I wasnt exactly the kind of guy to go out and approach hot women in bars and clubs so online dating was my only option at the time.

Well, one day everything turned around for me. After lots of painful trial and error, I realized that I was making the SAME mistakes over and over again. And once I stopped making these mistakes, I was meeting women left and right. In fact, I actually had to STOP sending out emails because my plate was full. Thats how dramatically things changed for me!

As it turns out, most guys are still making these mistakes and they dont even know it. Its no wonder most guys give up within a MONTH after signing up to online dating sites.

What are these mistakes?

1) First, they write bland/boring dating profiles. Their profiles just dont stand out. They arent using compelling headlines and they arent showing any emotion! They just list facts and the end result is a stale, boring profile with NO excitement.

2) Second, they dont know how to email women in a way that GETS THEIR ATTENTION. Again, their subject lines dont stand out and they dont get how to communicate the Secret Language that women respond to. If you dont know how to email women the right way, you WONT succeed at online dating.

3) Third, they dont know how to respond to women who email THEM first. This is also critical! Most guys get all excited and totally screw it up. When women email you, its a totally different dynamic and you HAVE to know how to handle it.

So, those are the three main online dating mistakes.

Now, how do you write a dating profile that compels women to respond???

Well, first lets look at how NOT to write a dating profile. When I first got into online dating, I wrote up a profile that Im not really proud of. In fact, its downright embarrassing. But, I need to show it to you so youll understand. Just promise me you wont laugh... OK?

Ok here it is:

Subject: "Nice Guy Here!!"

Body: "Hello out there! Well, I just joined this site and Im not too sure what to write but here goes. Im just a simple guy. I like hanging out with my friends and traveling to cool places. Ive found that its so hard to meet women in my area so I thought Id try online dating. Anyway, its always so hard to write stuff about myself so if you like what you see, maybe we can go out on a date sometime.

(Please Im not very confident and NEED your approval. Will you love me??)"

Ok I didnt really include that last line, but I might as well have. So, there it is. Painful, I know...

That was my first really lame attempt at writing a dating profile.

So, whats wrong with this profile? Well, first of all it looks like its coming from a kid and not a man. Theres no real confidence there and no humor, at least not intentional. Its like Im trying to seek her approval in every line. Im unsure about myself, Im uncomfortable in my own skin, basically Im just a total wuss. Thats NOT attractive to women.

Ok so how do you do it right?

Well, Ive come up with what I call my Secret Formula for writing dating profiles. Its a formula Ive been using for years and it NEVER fails me.

1) First, you must start off humorous. Get her emotions going right off the bat. This does two things; it gets her attention right away AND it makes her want to read more.

2) Second, you need to convey your confidence. Use strong, assertive language as you state who you are and what you want making NO apologies for either. This will be in the middle part of your profile.

3) Finally, you finish off with more humor. This gets her laughing again and you get out on a high note. Always good for showmanship. You do this by telling a brief funny story or my favorite, make fun of other guys on the site. I might write something like: "Believe me you want nothing to do with the guy below me, he still lives with his Mother." Or something like that.

So, that is my Secret Formula for writing dating profiles.

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