Showing posts with label write. Show all posts
Showing posts with label write. Show all posts

Thursday, May 26, 2016

Write Your Own Heartbroken Poem To Heal








There are few things that compare to being in a happy, loving relationship. Being able to share your life with somebody else is on of the highlights of our existence. But, if you have ever broken up with somebody, then you know that the reverse is also true; being alone is heartbreaking.





Writing a poem as the result of being heartbroken isnt all that uncommon. Perhaps you have written them in other situations where you have been sad about something, such as the loss of a family member or pet, leaving friends behind or other events. Although it seems that nothing else inspires the writing of such sad poetry as a divorce or break up.





Why do people turn to poetry? Because it is such a special method of self-expression. Also, as long as you arent worried about being published, you can write whatever you choose. No need to worry about how good it is.





Theres also no need to understand the rules of different poetic forms. Forget meter and rhyming schemes and all of the other conventions of academic poetry. The goal is to feel better, not get a good grade. You are expressing yourself, not trying to conform. On the other hand, some people like the rules, and find it helps them to better share their feelings on paper.





To get over the pain of a break up it is vital to face the pain head on as soon as possible. You may want to run away from the situation or try to avoid the pain, but it will not go away on its own - it needs to be confronted. This can be difficult, and writing things down in the form of a heartbroken poem can help get you on the right path to feeling better after breaking up with somebody you cared deeply about.





So how do you do it? Just start writing. Use imagery and special words that capture how you feel, or use simple words in a simple way. There is no right or wrong way to do it.





You are doing this for your benefit. Do not try to write like the classic poets of centuries gone by. Be you. If you like, you can ever write everything down in a prose style, and then go through and make it more poetic. Whatever works for you.





Now that you have one poem done, write another one, then another. Explore different parts of your painful experience. Dont wallow in your pity...get it out of your system. While it may seem like you are just writing words, many people find writing poetry to be a very emotional experience. At the same time it can also be cathartic. Leading you from pain to happiness as you write more and more.





You do not ever have to share, but if you feel you would like to, or that it could help others, then by all means, go ahead and share. You can show them to people directly or post them online. Furthermore, if you want it, some sites will let others critique your work. But when it comes to your heartbroken poem its up to you.


Sunday, April 10, 2016

How to Write Powerful Letters For Alcoholic Intervention and Alcohol Abuse Help

Alcoholic intervention letters are a powerful strategy you want to use. A key to its success is preventing this special alcohol abuse help event from becoming emotionally charged with anger and resentment. The alcoholic feels defensive and edgy in the first place and is possible to start arguments, so if someone takes the bait to argue, anger will overtake the session. The fight will dominate the meeting and will destroy its purpose. In order to prevent it from happening, only one person will speak with the addict, answering concerns and objections. Everyone else only reads from their intervention letter.

A good intervention letter is an important tool, ensuring that your love and concern for the addict is expressed, the purpose of the session is clear and there is no anger, blame or recrimination. Everyone reads their letter, committing to refrain from adding anything else in the alcoholic intervention. This will protect participants from bursting into impetuous arguments, keeping the meeting on track.

Start your letter with authentic expressions of your love for this person. Speak generously from your heart. Outline in details what you love and cherish about that person. Identify events when he or she was especially helpful to you, made a difference to you and the times when you have been proud of the person. List the persons beautiful qualities and what you miss about him or her.

The addict will anticipate recriminations at the start of the alcoholic intervention. Hearing about how much they are loved and the contribution they have been to others can stimulate the alcoholics willingness to enroll in a alcohol abuse help clinic.

Next, remove morality - right and wrong - from the situation, shifting it into the medical realm. Express that alcoholism is a disease which requires medical treatment. Confirm that it is not a matter of the addicts willpower or strength, but a matter of receiving treatment for a serious illness. Request the addict to receive professional alcohol abuse help immediately following the alcoholic intervention.

Then list factual examples which illustrate the alcohol problem. These must be your own experiences, not what you heard from others. For example:

"Mum, I visited you three times this week to see how you are, and each time, you were drunk by 7pm. Your speech was slurred and anything I did seem to anger you. You screamed and cursed at me, calling me offensive names and it hurts me so much! Then the next day, when I brought it up, you have no memory of my visit. I know you love me and dont want to hurt me, but when youve been drinking, how you treat me is intensely painful and shatters me."

Eliminate all blame, recriminations and anger. These sabotage the goal of the addict accepting specialized help during the alcoholic intervention. Express how the addicts behavior makes you feel about yourself rather than blaming the person for your feelings. For example:

Then express real examples which expose the alcohol problem clearly. Whereas, "When youve been drinking, how you treat me hurts me deeply and makes me feel unwanted" addresses the behavior without blaming.

Conclude your letter with love and concern. Express your support of alcoholism recovery, requesting the alcoholic to enter a specific in-patient clinic.

When this simple format of an alcoholic intervention letter is combined with a firm request for receiving professional alcohol abuse help is repeated by every participant, it creates a powerful impact on the alcoholic leading to that person saying yes.

Monday, March 28, 2016

Internet Dating Tips How to Write a Killer Online Dating Profile

Let me ask you...

Are You Frustrated with online dating?

If youre like most guys, you are. Youre tired of not meeting ATTRACTIVE women from online dating sites.

I mean, who wants to pay $30 a month with no results? Right?

Believe me, I know how frustrating it can be... Ive been there and I struggled with it for years. I thought I would NEVER be able to meet the woman of my dreams online.

When I first started online dating, women were ignoring ALL my profiles and emails. In fact, I would often send out 10 to 20 emails A DAY and get NO responses. It was crazy! And I wasnt exactly the kind of guy to go out and approach hot women in bars and clubs so online dating was my only option at the time.

Well, one day everything turned around for me. After lots of painful trial and error, I realized that I was making the SAME mistakes over and over again. And once I stopped making these mistakes, I was meeting women left and right. In fact, I actually had to STOP sending out emails because my plate was full. Thats how dramatically things changed for me!

As it turns out, most guys are still making these mistakes and they dont even know it. Its no wonder most guys give up within a MONTH after signing up to online dating sites.

What are these mistakes?

1) First, they write bland/boring dating profiles. Their profiles just dont stand out. They arent using compelling headlines and they arent showing any emotion! They just list facts and the end result is a stale, boring profile with NO excitement.

2) Second, they dont know how to email women in a way that GETS THEIR ATTENTION. Again, their subject lines dont stand out and they dont get how to communicate the Secret Language that women respond to. If you dont know how to email women the right way, you WONT succeed at online dating.

3) Third, they dont know how to respond to women who email THEM first. This is also critical! Most guys get all excited and totally screw it up. When women email you, its a totally different dynamic and you HAVE to know how to handle it.

So, those are the three main online dating mistakes.

Now, how do you write a dating profile that compels women to respond???

Well, first lets look at how NOT to write a dating profile. When I first got into online dating, I wrote up a profile that Im not really proud of. In fact, its downright embarrassing. But, I need to show it to you so youll understand. Just promise me you wont laugh... OK?

Ok here it is:

Subject: "Nice Guy Here!!"

Body: "Hello out there! Well, I just joined this site and Im not too sure what to write but here goes. Im just a simple guy. I like hanging out with my friends and traveling to cool places. Ive found that its so hard to meet women in my area so I thought Id try online dating. Anyway, its always so hard to write stuff about myself so if you like what you see, maybe we can go out on a date sometime.

(Please Im not very confident and NEED your approval. Will you love me??)"

Ok I didnt really include that last line, but I might as well have. So, there it is. Painful, I know...

That was my first really lame attempt at writing a dating profile.

So, whats wrong with this profile? Well, first of all it looks like its coming from a kid and not a man. Theres no real confidence there and no humor, at least not intentional. Its like Im trying to seek her approval in every line. Im unsure about myself, Im uncomfortable in my own skin, basically Im just a total wuss. Thats NOT attractive to women.

Ok so how do you do it right?

Well, Ive come up with what I call my Secret Formula for writing dating profiles. Its a formula Ive been using for years and it NEVER fails me.

1) First, you must start off humorous. Get her emotions going right off the bat. This does two things; it gets her attention right away AND it makes her want to read more.

2) Second, you need to convey your confidence. Use strong, assertive language as you state who you are and what you want making NO apologies for either. This will be in the middle part of your profile.

3) Finally, you finish off with more humor. This gets her laughing again and you get out on a high note. Always good for showmanship. You do this by telling a brief funny story or my favorite, make fun of other guys on the site. I might write something like: "Believe me you want nothing to do with the guy below me, he still lives with his Mother." Or something like that.

So, that is my Secret Formula for writing dating profiles.